Is it normal to be dwell on sexual attraction?

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I feel like I'm going through hell ever since I've been dwelling on my sexuality. I've been sexual attracted to guys (that look a certain way) for some time but before I was even conscious I've also thought about girls. I've never wanted to actually date or become in a committed/romantic relationship with a guy (I feel weird thinking about), I just liked the way the looked and really never focused on their "genitalia" of which I don't really lust over. Recently I've also had more of a physical attraction to woman but not to the same level as I have for men which really frustrates me, wondering why can't it just be equal? I have no problem with the idea of being in a relationship with a woman, but something in my chest comes up sometimes when I think about being with them. Nervousness or emptiness? It might be...I'm an anti-social wreck whose never had a girlfriend. Anyway, I'm wondering if it's normal to be attracted to one gender more than the other at times. As I was more attracted to woman for a few days then back to men and it's like a never ending cycle. I want it to stay with both....Please help me, this feeling in my chest been with me since June and I've been dwelling on this since then. I don't mind both but still I want to have more of an attraction to women and I don't understand why I'm not as attracted to them as men.

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  • TyLee
    12 years ago

    It isn't good to dwell on your sexuality because you will drive yourself crazy! I really want a girlfriend but I just can't seem to get one however it's very easy for me to get boyfriends. I just let life happen. Don't worry about what gender you like more just worry about being who you want to be and loving yourself. Bisexuality isn't clear cut so liking one gender more than others is totally normal.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    Honey this is very normal. Just look at my profile and questions.

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  • DeathAvenga
    12 years ago

    Seriously, look into Pure O obsessive compulsive disorder. You may have HOCD where you freak out about your sexuality. I feared I was a homosexual for a good two years even though I liked women and had similar thoughts about men as you did. I would also get this "feeling in my chest" and that is anxiety from the disorder. Look at the symptoms and compare.

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    • MisterSatan
      12 years ago

      Are you sure about this? I admit, I'm really only attracted to a certain feature about men physically which may be a fetish or something. But I've also been really obsessed with this situation.

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  • Zededd
    12 years ago

    dwelling won't change it... you are better off getting on with your life and trying to get a few close friends who you can trust. see if you can descover the truth behind your desires. nothing needs to be sorted out now, it won't change who you are.
    it's not like you wake up and descover 'omg, i like men!' and have to wear a badge stating it.
    be happy with yourself for now, develop your feelings towards others and try to descover your own path

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