Is it normal to be disgusted by your own wife as she become fat?

When I got married she was slim and pretty. Now looks like disgusting pig. I dont let her eat much but she keeps sweets in her handbag.

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  • lolamanilow77

    remember the words,"For better OR worse?"... you say them for a reason,one day you'll be shrivelled up and old and drooling on yourself and you'll need her,so don't get hung up on the superficial,why not work out together?

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  • IrishPotato

    Poor woman.

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    • RoseIsabella

      Unfortunately lots of people just marry another person for looks, and sexual desire above all else, but don't really care about actual compatibility, and shared interests.

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      • BleedingPain

        Appreances are just as important as personality. True that lots marry based upon sex and appearances, but keeping your body healthy is good.

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        • RoseIsabella

          Sometimes things happen that can't be helped like medical problems, or an serious injury.

          My second ex-husband started drinking way too much after he lost his job, so I dumped left him after 3 months. All he wanted to do was play video games, and get drunk. I was watching a YouTube video about relationships, and commented about it, then some jerk had the nerve to ask me, "whatever happened to til death do us part", and it just made me feel so angry. I have very little patience for that sort of behavior in a man, and it made me so mad to think that some people think women ought to put up with it. I was still working my ass off, and the last thing I wanted to do was deal with a lazy drunk who doesn't want to look for work, but has plenty of time to play video games.

          Everything seemed fine when we got together, but whenever things got difficult he just acted awful. I'm pretty sure when I met him we were both more interested in looks, and sexual compatibility than anything else.

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          • Asatchi

            You probably drove him to drink.

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          • WeirdDudeFromTheSouth

            Some girls let themselves go when they get married though. They think they got their husbands hooked and quit trying.

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            • RoseIsabella

              Some men do the same. I bet it's probably harder for women to stay in shape after they have had a few kids.

              We don't know what kinda shape OP is actually in because he hasn't shared that with us. Lots of men get fat, lazy and out of shape, but still expect women to stay in perfect shape.

              I once saw this car with a bumper sticker that said, "no fat chicks" when I was driving around near The Strip in Las Vegas so of course I had to speed up to see who was driving. When I passed the dude, I saw he was just some little, troll-ass, hobgoblin looking guy dressed like a typical douchebag. I laughed so hard!

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            • lolamanilow77

              You are quite right,but i'm sure some guys do too..

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  • Troll. No one could possibly be such a condescending lowlife douche.

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    • TerriAngel

      Unimportant.
      speak for yourself.
      Even a troll isnt attracted to a cow.
      Fat is a disease in our modern world.
      Its not attractive.
      You can try to pretend.
      But, it doesnt work.
      Fat, is just not attractive.
      period.

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    • You still have too much faith in humanity I see.

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  • SwickDinging

    You don't let her eat much? What does that mean? How do you exert any substantial control over what she eats?

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    • lolamanilow77

      I was thinking this exact same thing...

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    • That part was creepy. The rest is normal, albeit sad.

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    • Mrown

      Once a week he traps her in the basement with no food

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      • lolamanilow77

        Also what i was thinking!

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  • Rabblt

    that's pretty rude. is she just fat, or morbidly obese? are you upset because she's no longer attractive to you, or are you concerned for her health? is it ONLY because she's fat, or is she exhibiting any sort of lazy tendencies?

    talk to her and ask if she's interested in going to the gym without you. couple exercising not only keeps you both more motivated, but could be a better bonding experience for you both.

    calling her a disgusting pig is kind of questionable. if my boyfriend were getting fat i'd never use such harsh wording...
    did you marry her just for her looks or is her personality going hand in hand with this too?

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    • RoseIsabella

      She might even have a thyroid problem as well.

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      • I had a friend who was very pretty but a bit too thin. It turned out she had an overactive thyroid. Her doctor talked her into having surgery on it which changed her hyper to hypo and the poor girl has been obese for many years. That thyroid ain't nothing to mess with.

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        • RoseIsabella

          Yup, I wonder if the cure was worse than the disease?

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          • In her case it sure was.

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  • Bobtailcatgirl

    Get her a gym membership.

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    • RoseIsabella

      ... and join her in the gym. Encourage her by working to better yourself as well.

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    • TerriAngel

      Bobtail.
      it doesnt help.
      you can lead a cow to a treadmill.
      you cant make it use it.

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  • cipro

    Man the harpoons!!

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  • Asatchi

    She probs suffocates you with her flabby twat and leaks the smelly discharge in your face while you eat the rancid cheese all caked up in her flaps and folds.

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    • Bobtailcatgirl

      That's disgusting!

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  • Iszzy123

    Just wear a blind fold who needs sight anyways and now u have a softer wife

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  • Is it normal to be disgusted? Yes, in my opinion.

    Is it normal that you don't let her eat much? No, that's controlling in the wrong way.

    Are you sure she's not acutally pregnant? Just a thought.

    Talk with her if it's a major issue, "How would you feel phsycially attracted to me if I was to gain weight?" See how she responds then tell her how it makes you feel.

    I'm 21 and a guy, only had 1 proper relationship that lasted 2 years, so maybe I don't give the best advice.

    In my head I think I say what needs to be said but it can cause an arguement.

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  • litelander8

    You're the pig, dude.

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  • LloydAsher

    Now have you become less fit or fatter. If it's just the decline on her side you are justified.

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  • leggs91200

    A wedding ring causes women to gain a ton of weight.
    What happens when she is bed-riddeningly fat?

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  • perfectxsilence

    Aren't you a ray of sunshine

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  • Zombierainbowclown

    Thats fucking wrong! You dont love her if you cant handle her being plus sized.

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  • bigbudchonga

    Talk to her about how her weight is off-putting to you. Leaving something like this to stew is bad for the relationship.

    I know it might seem like talking about it will damage your relationship, but I wager that the constant distaste for her will damage it worse.

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  • SKDM007

    fuck you, you piece of (pig) shit

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  • RoseIsabella

    How many of your children has she brought into this world, OP?

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  • McBean

    What kind of body mass index are we talking about here?

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    • RoseIsabella

      What's hers, but also what is his?

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      • Let's forget about size and whether or not being overly big is a matter.

        How about instead just being blunt and saying "How would you feel phsycially attracted to me if I was to gain weight?" See how she responds then tell her how it makes you feel (depending on her response).

        She might feel like you love her no matter what, but she needs to be made aware that most men like an average weight/slim.

        For me it would actually cause problems getting an erection, so maybe she would bring it up and ask what's wrong.

        Personally I would be the uncomfortable one because I would be worried about making her feel self concious.

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        • Tealights

          It must be an instinctual thing with you guys, because my friend thinks the same way and acted on it sadly. Him and his girl are on a break atm.

          I wish men understood that our bodies change all the time, even with regular exercise. For example, my job is very active so I'm a steady 100 something for years. Suddenly in 3 months I shot up to 200 on the nose among other things, and I'm like, "Doctor wtf" My doctor is like, "Hm? Oh, this happens especially because you're on BC. Your body will regulate itself on its own eventually, but as long as you don't feel sick or this and that, you're okay." Now suddenly I'm losing weight again with no changes to anything.

          Men make such a big deal over our appearance, but rarely empathize.

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          • Also, it's either tell them you aren't attracted because of their weight, or break up, or be in a relationship with someone you aren't attracted to, I can't think of another option.

            Men don't choose what they find attractive, they just do, they don't decide, it can't be controlled, I assume it's the same for women?

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            • Tealights

              Nah. It depends on the type of girl. If it was such a common thing with us, you'll hear more stereotypes and jokes about it besides us wanting jerks.

              My boyfriend is a big guy both in height and weight, it never bothered me and I never pressure him to lose weight because I know he'll do it on his own eventually, which he has.

              As for my friend, they are trying to figure it out I guess. He can be very demanding and controlling, so I feel for his girlfriend. I feel he shouldn't have moved her in if he was so unattached to her to begin with. People aren't clay, you cant mold them into what you want.

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          • Did you know that your body sends food craving signals depending on the size of your stomache? I.E. If you have a small stomache then you crave food less, if you have a large one then you crave it more.

            Something you might not be aware of is that you can control the size of your stomache, it changes when you go without food or eat more food than normal (it doesn't change depending on your weight, it changes based on your consumption).

            I'm kind of lucky because I don't crave food that often, I can easily go without breakfast, have just a packet of crisps or sandwich, and a dinner the size of a microwave meal... That's like 1250 calories.

            Most men have a big breakfast, big lunch, big dinner, and they wonder why they're big, same goes for women.

            If you're like me and only eating 1250-1750 calories a day and still gain weight then I feel bad for you, because I couldn't imagine eating less than I do currently.

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            • Tealights

              Nah. TMI incoming but my period also stopped for months too. Doctors and I concluded it was a combination of extreme stress, and bc side effects reacting to my typical stress eating I've done many times before. Prior to bc, when stress I lose a lot of weight and eat only my comfort foods here and there, but nothing else (very bad I know), but I never gorge myself.

              It's the first time I've been super stressed out like that and my body just said fuck it for a while. Once the stress passed, period came back and weight is coming off. So I know my body, just didn't know bc would make such a huge difference.

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        • McBean

          Yes, these are all valid questions. Except BMI is still a consideration.

          If her BMI is still healthy, the problem is in HIS head.

          If her BMI is unhealthy, the problem is in HER head.

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  • Get fat as well.. then when she gets disgusted looking at your belly flab cover your balls an dick, she will agree to go bike riding every day...

    Or find some ass to bang on the side.

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