Is it normal to be annoyed with someone for being sweet?

I have a friend who is a male and he is really nice and we get along and have a lot in common but i'm a woman and I think he's too sweet.
He writes lots of smileys in every text he sends, like cute ones, and he watches cartoons and drinks lemonade and thinks that alcohol is basically evil.
He's also very naive. He's gotten tricked by two different women on money that they said they needed so he gave it to them when he didn't even know them because he thought they were dating based on having talked online and they then ditched and he never heard from them again.
Yet somehow he is still able to stand up for himself but he doesn't do it enough. He also every single time I text him says that he has the cold or the flu and is feeling lightheaded. Everytime, no exception. Yet he's still very positive. Like he always has a good outlook on things but in a quite immature way I guess.
I've tried to date him once because he's nice but I can't be attracted to him. If I was to send him a funny meme he replies way too sweet instead of saying something funny or sarcastic. This annoys me greatly and even though I like him I have to sometimes take breaks from the friendship.

Is It Normal?
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  • I don't like the too sweety attitude type people either, still I pick them over douches any day.

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  • It only irks you because you don't accept him. You want him to be the type of person you're use to being around, rather than embracing his differences.

    Change perspective and notice where he is in life and the important choices he makes. Was he dumb enough to get hook on hard drugs (meth, heroine, etc), is he refusing to move out his mom's house, is he paying child support for 1 or more children; basically has he made the major mistakes in life that comes with bad decisions? If not, and his only crime to you is being eccentric and overly generous/cheerful and losing a few dollars, then maybe your annoyance reflects more on you than him.

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    • He does still live at his moms house actually.
      It might reflect me as I am not a cheerful person but that is also one of the least thing I ever intend to be.

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      • Is he refusing to move out or does he has aspiration of moving out and working toward that goal?

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  • Yeah well its not masculine to be always that sweet, so it's normal that tha isn't attractive to you. Tell him about it and or find somebody else.

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  • Cute, but I get what you mean. that's more like having a puppy than a bf

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  • The obvious solution here is to spend less time with him if you find him annoying. Sorted.

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  • Sometimes learning to stop licking people who don't taste the way you like is hard. I've been there.

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  • I do empathise with OP. I remember an insipid sort of guy like that.

    They are the kind of people who treat you nicely while they're betraying you for someone else. He didn't know his own capacity to hurt. As long as he was 'nice' about it, he was a 'good enough' person in his own eyes.

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