Is it normal to be a 21 year old male virgin. (read story for explanation)

It's your virginity. It's your choice to do with it what you want. Don't worry about what you feel others will think.

I think its a very good thing to wait with sex because of that reason. To me personally it wasn't something 'special' (tho I love the guy very much, still together too) but don't let anyone tell you its lame to wait. Do whatever feels comfortable for you.

Ignore what your friends say all the way man. It might sound stupid, but the less meaningless sex you have, the less your other half will be hurt once you tell her about your past. Would you like hearing from a girl you've fallen in love with that she had threesomes, lesbian sex and other stuff? I rly doubt that. And don't worry about being unexperienced in bed, practice in this matter helps only a little because if you're missing passion and connection with another person sex will never be great.

That's so sweet of you, I wish more guys had your thought process, like honestly, I have dated guys that treat my like shit, and I stay with them, like honestly, I wish the best when you do find that "person"

You seem like a great guy with a great thought process.
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just do it to try it out and then you can do it with someone you like or "have feelings for"

you need to stop putting the pussy on a pedestal!

I lost my virginity at 24. It wasn't because I was religious or anything, but I have battled depression for a lot of my life and it just happened. I was still having problems when I lost my virginity and the girl that I lost it to encouraged me to get help and get my self better and even though it didn't work out I thank her every day that she did that because I wouldn't be where I am without her.

Nothing wrong with it. I was a virgin until I was 19. Not that guys didn't try you know but I just didn't want to have sex with just anyone. I wanted to actually like the guy.

Society makes it seem abnormal, because they're constantly questioning if its normal. Its normal!

There's nothing wrong with you. And a person should never just do something just for the sake of being able to say they did it.

I think you're right about making a connection. Sex should be something thats shared with someone you have grown a bond with, and someone you connect with on a more deeper level. Someone you 'love'. Make it a memorable experience. Wait for the right person to come along. And just because most people these days seem to lose it at like; 15, doesn't make it right. There shouldn't be any rush. Losing your virginity isn't the same as losing a pair of socks.

Trust me 21 is young, not "young". That kind of thinking just turns you old. But it's completely normal to want to be a virgin until you meet someone right... but if I were you and I was really horny or something.. I'd just go to third base with some random chick... That's almost as good.. in some cases better.

I'm actually a girl with a creepily similar story, so I really appreciate this post in general. Having been overweight most of my life and then changing that, I think I have a different relationship with my body than a lot of my friends do, which is why I think they don't understand why I am looking for sex AND intimacy. I think our generation is focused on visual stimuli, and less focused on conceptual components of who a person really is, which makes truly knowing a person that much more difficult. Stick to your guns; guys like you are hard to come by. :)

my best friend is obese and a virgin as well as 21.
you'll get it when you least expect it, and it'll be worth the wait

You should wait. Part of the reason my husband and i are so close is we are the only partners each other have ever had. Rare these days but that just makes it all the more of a special bond.

You seem like such a great guy!! There is nothing wrong with wanting to save sex for someone you really care about, if anything it's more admirable than weird. I completely support you.

I'm the same way, 21 single not boyfriend, I think its fine to wait for the right one to have sex with. I think its stupid that they think that way cause you should do what you wanna do not what they wanna do