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I'm 18 and never had a problem with not having kissed before. I realize its because of myself though, I have a rather high standard of beauty and dont want to give myself to just anyone. I'd like someone Model-Esque to be my first kiss. Is this normal?
It's good to set your standards high but experience things with all types of girls then when you get too the real deal you'll be actually good at kissing and such. You don't wanna kiss a really hot girl and not know what your doing do you? That'd be embarrassing
It's incredibly shallow of you to only want someone extremely attractive, but it's normal to not have been kissed at 18. You cite that you don't want to lower your standards in your reply to one of the comments. Lowering them isn't the problem, you need different standards altogether if you want happiness- do you even care about intelligence, kindness, compatibility?
Thanks for your advice guys.. I think I might have just been making too big an issue about it...
Your first kiss should be with someone you LIKE, so don't discriminate if he/she's not the hottest thing on the planet, but you like them.
Your normal may not be someone else s normal. If you don't have a problem with it, then it's normal.
The thing is it does bother me to a certain extent. I see ugly people who are always in relationships/having sex. The only thing that makes me feel better is that I take solace in the fact that I look good.
I think to myself "I could if I wanted to". But I'm also conflicted in that I DON'T want to have low standards.
You need to lower your standards. No one starts out getting a model type girl. You have to work your way up. If any high maintenance girl finds out that you have never kissed a girl, they will have nothing to do with you. You should start out with the best you can find, become familiar with the opposite sex, get good at maintaining a physically active relationship and one day you will get the model girlfriend you desire.
Don't feel alone. I myself haven't kissed anyone seriously. (Kissing a mom on the cheek or having kissed a girl at the kindergarden as a kid)
You'll find the girl you want. It's cute knowing you havnt kissed yet. :)
I think its great you have set standards for yourself... but just remember what we see is not always the whole story... looks are important but you need to base it on character too (:
Think about it like this.... If every woman in the world held on giving their kiss to the perfect looking man, would YOU be him??? The answer is more than likely no. You might be good-looking, you may even be very attractive- but PERFECT- no. You see all those woman would be missing out on a good kiss just because of physical hang- ups. What you need is a kiss from someone who makes you FEEL like they are perfect, to you, even though nobody is! :) Good luck, mmuahh!
explore all types and you'll find fun is everywhere. I used to like just thin girls but have opened up to experiences with alot of different females, all shapes and sizes. Hvae been thankful as have had some hot and wild experiences. start kissing, start enjoying..you only walk through life once, experience all that the world has to give.
I didn't get the memo on a first kiss supposedly being memorable. Sex yes but a kiss? I don't know. They could look like a model and still have herpes ("cold sores"). Just find a nice girl =)
I say completely normal, I didn't have my first kiss until just before I turned 19.
It only seems unusual as most people won't admit after a certain age that they have never been kissed, It's fine just go and kiss someone it doesn't really matter who as everyone's first kiss isn't what they expect it to be.
Hell yes i am JUST like u I don't want just any guy he has the just like u said :D
I'm guy though... I know its unusal for a guy to think this way, thats why I posed this question.
I don't think it's unusual for a guy to think that way.
But..you might want to lower your standards just a tad bit. After all, a girl can be attractive in so many ways, pure good looks aren't everything ;)
By the way...I had my kiss less than a month before I turned 18 and I wish I hadn't (can't even remember the guy's name, to think it's supposed o be one of those special memories :/)