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So I'm a 28 yr old female who doesnt own a car, never rented/own a place, no job, broke up with ex, going to go live with my parents for the second time in 4 years, no social life, hardly any "friends".... is this normal??
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| Mostly yes | 16 | |
| No | 20 | |
| Mostly no | 7 | |
| Who cares?? | 10 |
Are you the same person who posted about wanting to end it all (19sammi91 or something?)...
It's not unusual for people your age to live with parents. At least you have a place other than a tent or cardboard box to live. You're still young and can start over.
Try to make the best out of the situation, and start saving money for a car as soon as you get a job.
Growth is not linear, you will develop at your own pace. Don’t compare yourself to others you may see, it’s better to focus on yourself. Many people do not have it together until a much older age, and you are only 28 years old.
Perhaps a peaceful life in your parents basement would fit your style. Be a gamer by day, a cocktail waitress by night.
I feel bad for your parents. They sound like good people stuck with a loser of a kid.
I think your brutal truth may have been too much for her. You are certainly right about math and beauty. Keep the faith, my friend.
At 28 you don't need people to coddle you or wallow in your own self pity you need to get moving on a career or marry. I have tact but it's not warranted in this situation. If she was 18-23 she can get some leeway on these matters because at that point you are still a young adult figuring out how the world works. At 28... you should have an idea of how shit it can be without a plan. She didnt have one nor had the responsibility to show that she can act independently. Not having a job was a big red flag. Everyone who isnt married needs a job, especially when living with a bf cause if she was paying rent then she would still have a roof that she owns over her head.
Not a rant just an explanation for the most disliked comment on this thread.
... He said, desperately punching the words into his phone during his break at McD's.
You can always be a prostitute. I’ve heard they can make really good money and don’t have to be very smart.
it's not super uncommon, though it's a hard situation to be in. you're still pretty young though and there's time to turn things around.
Never owning a car is normal, I'm never going to learn to drive or buy a car. I can just get public transport, it's better for the environment.
Never having owned/rented a place at 28 probably isn't normal tbh. Still though it's nothing to be ashamed about, I'm 28 and I haven't done that either. At least you've lived somewhere else other than your parents' though, I haven't even done that.
Have you ever had a job? Not having one at this particular point in time is normal, but never having had one at 28 is probably not normal tbh. I'm not saying it's something to be ashamed about though, I got my first job at 26 and it's not even a full time job. I probably won't get my first full time job till I'm 30.
Splitting up with someone is perfectly normal, no need to even ask that.
Moving back in with your parents is normal in your 20's, lots of people do it.
Not having a social life or friends is unfortunately normal, especially these days when social anxiety and indoor activities are increasing massively.
Try not to worry about things though, you're just going through a hard time right now and things will get better. Breaking up with someone might seem like the end of the world now but time will help you move past it, and you'll find someone new eventually anyway. You'll find a job soon and move out, just try to stay positive. And make sure to talk to someone about your problems.
Yea I know a few people around my age that doesnt have a car or a couple that havent even have a license..
Yea I've lived with my aunt for a while, then back with my parents for 1.5 yrs, then with the bfs place for 2 yrs and now back at my parents lol
Since 2011 I think I've had about 5 jobs.. one of them I had for 4 years, another for 10 months, one for 6 months the others only a couple months..
I just dont want to be the 30 yr old that's still living with my parents..
The breaking up is fine but it's the way it ended is all
Well that's pretty normal nowadays to only stay with jobs for a short time, and as a result to move around a lot, especially when you're young. At least it looks good to have some variety on your CV. But you'll soon find a good secure job that'll last.
Yeah I understand bitter breakups can really stick in your mind, but it'll eventually become something that's just in the past and it won't have such a hold on you as it does now. You'll be too busy thinking about your new life. Good luck with everything!
What kind of job you have where you are not required to have a driver license?
This is kind of sad tbh. Have you thought of settling down with someone? Apart from the car thing, it may well solve all your problems if you find a good guy.
Yeah that's pretty normal and it's easy fixable too.
First apply for jobs, take what you can get and get an education if you want something that requires that, look for apartments or houses. A lot of people don't have social lives actually for different reasons but that doesn't mean you have to live at home without a job plus a job can get you a social life or else find a hobby and connect with people who share that hobby.
Why didn't you get a job while living with your bf? You just leeched off of him? Stop depending on others and get your shit together. Sit down and make a plan, get some therapy if you need that and really think about what you want out of life and then start working towards achieveing that.
Super negative outlook on life that only makes things worse? Yeah that's normal.
You are not normal. Most people have a job and some (like 100$ or more) in savings for a rainy day. You just didnt plan for the event of being kicked out of your BFs place over a breakup (predictable circumstances)
Yea but we live in a time where you either know people in the job place already or you have high class resume or your young to get a job.. I pretty much dont have any of them which makes it difficult for me.. and once upon a time I did have money saved up.. until my work decided to reduce the hours and pretty much fire me in which case my savings dwindled and was never able to get it back up due to not having a job for more then a year...
Yes this is perfectly normal. A lot of Americans are broke, some of them eating beans on the street, with nothing but fire in a bin to keep warm, a blanket and some raggedy clothes and long hair and a beard. You're the lucky one who can live with your mother, remember that there are other people worse off than you. You have a roof over your head, food to eat (provided that any ridiculous diet or some other diet you can afford to eat). Just don't overwhelm your mother with an extreme diet she thinks is totally unnecessary, as I know from experience that this can give you a headache. For me maybe I'll just settle down and move on with my life, and I don't mean having a wife and kids! Once you move on, you won't have to worry with grave concern what your life is about. The truth hurts!