Is it normal to avoid sex for 8 years because of a few bad experiences?

I completely understand how awful and scarring that must have been, but think its time to move on. Sex and relationships can be wonderful things if you give them a chance. Just get out there and start talking to people. See where it goes.

Just keep on bangin' dude.

Wow. Those people that didn't talk to you are dumb then. Have sex all you want! Find a nice, beautiful girl

Is it normal? No, absolutely not. I'll tell you what else is not normal, putting a kid on anti-depressants. I equate that to child abuse. The only ones that think it's a great idea to put people on that poison, is pharmaceutical companies and quack doctors that receive kickbacks. The medication is worse than the condition.

The only way to get over your fear is to face it. It may be cliche, but its true. Get out there and try to meet girls and make new friends. It may be scary, awkward, and uncomfortable for a while, but it will get better the more you do it. You will learn how it all works by trial and error.

That sucks. I would honestly see a counselor or someone to help get you over your fear. You don't want to miss out on life. Also, you can find new friends. Friends that would act that way just sound like dicks. I lost a good friend of mine when I hit rock bottom. It pissed me off because I had helped her with so many of her dark times. People can be replaced. True friends accept you no matter what.

just get to know a girl first before sex... that first girl sounds like a stupid slut... (no offence) anyway its bad luck for your first experience,,, better luck with the next one :)

I can't tell you how sex and relationships work because there is no "one way". There is only the way for you, or multiple ways. Just sex for sex, sex with friends, sex with someone you love. You decide, but you'll only ever know from experience which means you need a new girl (or guy?) to mess around/meet. AND NEW FRIENDS. Don't forget that, real friends don't bail like that. Anyway, I'd venture to guess that you'd only enjoy sex with a woman you love. And speaking from experience, thats the best kind of sex there is. I would also advise seeking professional help, because this is something you need to get over. Its very important in a healthy, whole, and loving relationship. Its not too late at 24 or 42, you can always start over but the more time you waste the less time you have to LIVE. Do you want to live? Or worry?

Its never late.If you want it will all your heart you will succeed. I can help you

Get back on that "horse" man. You're missing out.

You guys were kids. Kids do cruel things for attention and to avoid responsibility/ consequences. Don't let it ruin your view on life, I am sure that silly girl doesn't ponder at all. Sex is over rated. When the time comes and it feels right.... Go with it. Oh and be safe about things. Good luck!

Ps- you aren't weird for thinking this way, and everyone has moments of emotional distress in their life. Sometimes it is just chemicals/hormones unbalanced. Your grown now, start living your life.

It's just not part of my life now. I don't see opportunities for relationships or whatever. It's hard to believe that something can change. Thanks for your comments.