Well it's great for you but obviously it makes him uncomfortable. I know that's not your intention but if you keep pressuring him he'll never want to do it. Make a compromise, say if you do this for me then I'll do something that you like. And start slow. I think if you ease him into it will become more "normal" and he'll start to enjoy himself. It sounds like he's just a little scared of something he doesn't know anything about. :)
You certainly make some valid points here. I am keen to try your compromise plan - but where do I start? With one word? A sentence? Picking one day of the week? Maybe 'anything goes Tuesday'? I don't want to apply pressure at all however the fact he seems to believe the idea is 'abnormal' is baffling. It's really starting to worry me.
That's a good question... How would I do this? Umm...ok I guess I would start with a quick conversion. Keep it brief. Men tend not hear anything past a couple minutes. I'm not even being sarcastic men are not born communicators like women are. I would just say this is something I really enjoy and I would like to explore it more,is there anything you want to explore? Ask him to think about it for a bit, don't put him on the spot. When he comes back with something, most importantly, don't laugh, but do it. Try to make him comfortable. I think just getting him outside of his comfort zone will make him more susceptible to want to try the dirty talk again. Show him that there's nothing wrong with experimenting a little. That it's healthy in the right environment. You just have to show him how good it can be.
And everybody has had different experiences with sex. I would venture to say that his haven't been as open as yours. Nothing wrong with that. Don't be worried. If you care about him just be patient and try not to get frustrated with him.
It took me many years to fully embrace my sexuality and I think everybody moves at their own pace. Don't give up. He'll come around. Come. Hehe.
You clever girl! Took your advice asked him the question 'is there anything you would like to try?' Apparently so... he seems to have a couple of kinks I can work on. I don't think I'll get my dirty talk for a while but I did receive a dirty text and it's going to be a hell of a lot of fun in the meantime lol. Thanks again for the clarity!
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Well it's great for you but obviously it makes him uncomfortable. I know that's not your intention but if you keep pressuring him he'll never want to do it. Make a compromise, say if you do this for me then I'll do something that you like. And start slow. I think if you ease him into it will become more "normal" and he'll start to enjoy himself. It sounds like he's just a little scared of something he doesn't know anything about. :)
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You certainly make some valid points here. I am keen to try your compromise plan - but where do I start? With one word? A sentence? Picking one day of the week? Maybe 'anything goes Tuesday'? I don't want to apply pressure at all however the fact he seems to believe the idea is 'abnormal' is baffling. It's really starting to worry me.
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That's a good question... How would I do this? Umm...ok I guess I would start with a quick conversion. Keep it brief. Men tend not hear anything past a couple minutes. I'm not even being sarcastic men are not born communicators like women are. I would just say this is something I really enjoy and I would like to explore it more,is there anything you want to explore? Ask him to think about it for a bit, don't put him on the spot. When he comes back with something, most importantly, don't laugh, but do it. Try to make him comfortable. I think just getting him outside of his comfort zone will make him more susceptible to want to try the dirty talk again. Show him that there's nothing wrong with experimenting a little. That it's healthy in the right environment. You just have to show him how good it can be.
And everybody has had different experiences with sex. I would venture to say that his haven't been as open as yours. Nothing wrong with that. Don't be worried. If you care about him just be patient and try not to get frustrated with him.
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You clever girl! Took your advice asked him the question 'is there anything you would like to try?' Apparently so... he seems to have a couple of kinks I can work on. I don't think I'll get my dirty talk for a while but I did receive a dirty text and it's going to be a hell of a lot of fun in the meantime lol. Thanks again for the clarity!
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Hey no problem. Honestly it just makes me feel good helping one person. Lol
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You've helped 2 in this instance - he so needed a shake up! Lol
Super awesome advice thanks so much :)))