Is it normal to ask for attention

The title makes me sound like an attention whore but seriously I just feel like I need a friend or something .

It's almost impossible to get my hubby's attention away from games at the moment :( he works hard in full time work and I don't want to bother him more than I am already in his down time as I don't want him to think I'm high maintenance or anything now.

Is it normal for guys to just be oblivious to their partners like this ? Or is it me?

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73% Normal
Based on 11 votes (8 yes)
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  • MR.mr

    i've seen it before.
    I used to know a couple, the girl cooked, cleaned, and had a job. She was putting herself through school and helping him get through school as well.
    She would spend almost all her excess money buying him gifts, he spent 80% of his day playing video games. She complained constantly that he didn't do enough.

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  • Jophiel

    I agree with Keepsake. Communication is very important when someone in a relationship has an issue. Keeping it to yourself, while showing that you aim to be unselfish, can be detrimental to your health and the relationship. I think your reasoning is sweet, but it's really not a good way to go about things in this situation.

    Talk to him about how you feel. If he doesn't really listen or take action, then perhaps seek companionship outside of your husband. Join a book club, a sport team, or whatever you're remotely interested in that has potential to let you form friendships.

    And don't think attention-seeking behavior should be looked down upon. If it's purely seeking attention without causing harm or disruption to anyone, it's just human behavior. Humans are a social species that thrive off one another. What you're feeling is normal.

    Best of luck.

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    • I agree lack of communication is the kiss of death for a relationship. We have talked about this and he says the same as you ultimately.

      The difficulty is we have a small baby at home and a 2 year old starting nursery which doesnt give me a lot of free time at the moment. He said perhaps try mmo's like online multilayer type thing. Which I have tried in my spare time but none of the women (he is wary of me talking to the men) stop and talk much really ^_^;; it's a little embarrassing as I'm talking to them they just run past me.

      What I need is to go back to work but with his job and my unstable hours it works out better off with me taking care of he little ones by a little bit.

      So at the moment I'm just....sort of in a little bit of a pickle :/ a lonely little pickle......

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  • Keepsake

    Not communicating how you feel will leave you unhappy and bottling everything in. Try asking for a date night. Or try finding a hobby both of you can enjoy.

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  • Murun

    What the fuck is a father of two doing playing video games?

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  • dreadpool555

    quit eating solid food. Maybe he's trying to tell you that he only desires women who follow a religiously strict, liquid only diet.

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    • Rainbowbubbles

      Funny thing is I did do that. Im underweight now and all of a sudden he's "worried".

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