Is it normal to always beat yourself up on past situations and compare yourself
I'm a nice, quiet and mature person in real life, but I constantly find myself feeling bad on things I could have done or constantly obsessed with the thought that I'd be a better person if Ive done what my friend said she would have done. I feel like you have to be a coldhearted bitch to be the best and the strongest.
Whenever I get into trouble and just ignore it, my friend would say " I would've flipped them off " I can't help thinking I would be so respected and at peace with myself if I do what she says she would do. Being a bad bitch isn't my nature and I feel more comfortable being chill in bad situations. Idk what i can do to be respected or looked as not a pushover. My friends method I know only attracts more trouble.