Is it normal to act like you have a crush on someone even though you don't?

Let me make this clear: I do NOT do this on purpose. I don't do this to lead people on. It just kinda happens. I am a very affectionate person. I really like to show verbal and physical affection to my friends.

Voting Results
50% Normal
Based on 12 votes (6 yes)
Help us keep this site organized and clean. Thanks!
[ Report Post ]
Comments ( 4 )
  • DuchessK

    As an ENFP I actually relate. There is a sort of people who like many sides of people, we like them in all sides that ca exist except the romantic/sexual one. It is normal. People are the stupid ones for thinking that they can only liked that way.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
      -
    • Well I don't like to call people stupid.

      And honestly, I would not blame my ex-friend for thinking I had a crush on her. I never really made it clear that my feelings were platonic. I told her I like her and that I think she is cute. Also we were in the same Bible study group and I kissed her on the cheek all the time, but I didn't kiss anyone else from the group.

      Comment Hidden ( show )
  • everdragon

    I've done the same thing, often acting the same way I may do to someone I'm attracted to, except towards someone I have no interest in whatsoever. This was mainly in high school. In retrospect, it may have been an unconscious attempt to elicit male attention, which I probably craved as an adolescent.

    It is also common for people to behave towards people in a way to signal what they want from others. That is to say, you may have given affection towards people you are not necessarily interested in as a way of signaling that you are in need of affection in general, not necessarily from the person you are acting towards.

    For me, it was unconscious. This may be due to the fact that we also tend to not consider distasteful possibilities when it comes to ourselves. I believe its a defense mechanism, meant to protect our ego. This, of course, is completely normal.

    Nevertheless, it's also good to recognize these misleading behaviors and attempt to correct or redirect them before they cause problems in your social life.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
      -
    • Well I mean what sometimes happens is I like someone ALOT, but not in a romantic way, and people get the wrong idea. That's what has been happening.

      I had this friend and I used to be really affectionate to her. I am willing to admit that I did act like I had a crush on her. Oops. i was just trying to be affectionate in a friendly way.

      Comment Hidden ( show )