Is it normal to abuse your lover during kinky sex?

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I am dating a woman right now who is into some kinky stuff. She likes to blindfold me and tie me to the bed and then have her way with me. It is fun for me when she teases me by rubbing up against or groping me and then starts riding me or puts her pussy by my face. One time it seemed like she rode me for 45 minutes or so until she finally untied me and finished me off. That was enjoyable.

However, a couple times other times I was tied to the bed and she put her ass right by my lips, which I thought was gross. When I wouldn't lick her there, she slapped my face, which I couldn't see coming because of the blindfold - that was fairly painful. She then grabbed my head and kept rubbing it up against her bare ass. I also think she was trying to fart while she did this, but I cannot be certain.

I enjoyed the times when she was tendering and loving, but not when she was abusive.

Is it normal to abuse a lover during kinky sex?

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  • shuggy-chan
    7 years ago | pl

    It's called a safe word for a reason

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  • lovetofuck
    7 years ago | pl

    she is wild

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  • wtf2015
    7 years ago | pl

    That is not normal. That is abusive and controlling. BDSM is about two WILLING partners AGREEING ON the sexual behavior. Otherwise what she is doing is a form of rape. And it's actually illegal. Look it up.

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  • Ellenna
    7 years ago | pl

    If you're playing those sorts of games and don't have a safe word you're virtually consenting to anything she wants to do to you

    If you do have a safe word and she's ignoring it, run away now, because that is abuse. There are plenty of people around who play these games respectfully but you'd have to be crazy to let ANYONE tie you up if you can't trust them to only proceed on a consensual basis

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  • RoseIsabella
    7 years ago | pl

    She sounds like a skank.

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  • 53739
    7 years ago | pl

    That doesn't sound abusive at all, you just sound like a wimp.
    She needs a real man to make her feel good.

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  • randypete
    7 years ago | pl

    stop whinging about it you don't know how lucky you are you do not deserve her

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