Is it normal this really frustrates me?

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Please note that I am trying to better myself, and I now realize the flaws in my thinking. It still bothers me, but I’m trying to work through it. But with that out of the way, this is what I’m referring to:

Sometimes I might be having a therapeutic conversation, and I stumble upon a big realization, something I think could finally solve my problems once and for all! And then the person I’m talking to starts talking about something COMPLETELY different and unrelated, and act as if they weren’t even listening! I know that they don’t view it as important as I do, but can you imagine talking about something really important to you and whoever you’re talking to acts like it doesn’t even matter!?

But I’m also starting to realize that I cannot solve all my problems with a simple statement, and like I said before the person usually doesn’t understand the importance (the person this happens with most is my mother, and in her defense she has A LOT of other things to focus on. However, the people I can’t defend are certain therapists I’ve had who forgot extremely key details and treated me like I was just another patient. And in my experience female therapists are INFINITELY better, and I say this as a male!)

Sorry if this came out ranty but I really needed to get it out of my system!

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  • dimwitted
    4 years ago

    Like most things in life that we need to learn therapy is baby steps. There will never be an AH HA moment where you discover the exact moment where your life started going to shit.

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  • [Old Memory]
    4 years ago

    I think what you have to realize, and what sucks to realize, is that other people will never care about your stuff as much as you will.

    Depending on people to give up their time and invest their emotions into you is a very poor way to live relationships.

    I say this with as much niceness as possible! And I don’t doubt for a second that these people love you and care for you intensely, but just as you said they have their own stuff going on.

    It is very important to learn how to enjoy yourself by yourself.

    And about the therapists, well is it not true that you are just another patient? Therapists are professionals working a career.

    You gotta learn to work and interact better with just yourself, it will be the best relationship you’ll ever have

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    • Hubbard
      4 years ago

      Thanks, and about the therapists thing, I guess I didn’t explain it well enough. It’s more like they saw me as nothing more than just another number, just one more person to cross off their list at the end of the day, instead of a real human being with real problems.

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      • [Old Memory]
        4 years ago

        Ah I see, how many have you been through if you don’t mind me asking?
        It could be possible you’ve just been unlucky with crappy therapists, I wish I had better advice but I do not have much experience with therapy.

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        • Hubbard
          4 years ago

          5, only two have been good and they were both female.

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          • [Old Memory]
            4 years ago

            I don’t doubt it, I find speaking to females more therapeutic as well. Assuming your intentions and respects are in the right place.

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  • cripplingdepressionman
    4 years ago

    not even gonna lie, i was about to come in these comments and be like "Text me i will listen. LIKE FUCK IM DESPERATE FOR A GENUINE CONVERSATION ABOUT "LIFE"
    Look at me not trying not to obvious. what im trying to say is are you a girl and will you give me any attention.

    Well i laughing while writing this but crying inside fuck i dont want to post this but i am going to do it anyway fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck ok im doing it dont hurt me comment section ahhhhhhhhh i am have a fucking stroke and im still writing it down because im trying to be more honest with myself and stuff ok im doing it again dont hurt me comment section ahhhhhhhhhhhhhh FUCK

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  • FromTheSouthWeirdMan
    4 years ago

    Yes i know exactly what you mean. A few of my friends were like that

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