Is it normal this happened to her?

My father, being a very racist man, never approved of mybest friend when I was a kid (she was black). He would tolerate our hanging out outside but forbade me going anywhere near her house, saying he didn't trust her family.

My mom (understanding how ridiculous my father could be) would cover for me on a couple of occasions so I could spent the night at her house. She lived with her father, step mother, and four half siblings.

Nights were spent watching tv, eating junk food, and listening to music, normal adolescent bull shit. The father would occasionally give me a weird vibe but I would attribute that to my dad's influence.

Fast forward six years, she found me on Facebook and we ended up exchanging numbers to catch up. During that call she admitted that her father had been raping her since the age of eight and that it continued until late into her teens.

It only stopped because a friend reported him. She admitted to having liked when I spent the night because it was one of the fewtimes he would leave her alone.

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  • That's really unfortunate but sadly it can happen. Just be there for her as a friend. That's all you can do. You can't change the past but you can better the future for her.

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  • See just because he was racist it didn't mean he was wrong.

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  • That's a really messed up situation hope everything's okay with her.

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  • I hope you can give her the support she needs about this: is she having counselling?

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  • Dude no that's not normal.

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  • It happens unfortunately.

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  • Whose father gave you a weird vibe?

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    • Pretty sure the father of the (black) girl.

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      • She didnt clarify that it was the other girl's father. Some people mistakenly too that it was her own father molesting her friend. But yeah thats fuked up and that guy deserves jail!

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        • yea, hope she got justice people like that don't deserve to live.

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        • "Nights were spent watching tv, eating junk food, and listening to music, normal adolescent bull shit. The father would occasionally give me a weird vibe but I would attribute that to my dad's influence."

          It's quite clear she means the friend's father, if you can read and understand English.

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