Is it normal that when i think of changing myself for the better i get scared?

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I feel like I'm not doing good enough in my life. I know that the reasons aren't directly because of me, but I know my attitude is weighing me down. I'm constantly beating myself up and being extremely depressed because I feel like I'm not good enoug, but I know I set myself up sometimes.

When I think of just changing, and doing everything right despite my own feelings, I get this extremely anxious feeling in my chest and it scares me. I don't know why or what this is. I don't know if I'm scared of change, though I would love this change, or if I'm scared of failing at trying to change.

I just wanted to know, is this normal?

Is It Normal?
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  • frist
    10 years ago | pl

    Any change is scary and takes courage. If it will make your life better then try it - go against the flow of your fear, but you will need to keep working at it. If you suffer from depression start by finding a good therapist you can trust, who can help you with choosing which changes to tackle when (trying to change too much at once can create a backlash). Depression is often a way of our mind (subconscious) telling us we have some problems which we need to deal with. It is a great relief to work on them and move beyond it. Good luck for your journey!

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  • Elias189
    12 years ago | pl

    I always get that anxious feeling in my chest, and get depressed for no reason ..I do not have any idea if it is normal. but it irritates me feeling bad for no certain reason.

    But about your situation, "changing to the better" I dont think this will make your feel down. It should increase your enthusiasm.

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  • Sotchi
    12 years ago | pl

    The above comments are so true. Really, u just need to bite the bullet and start taking contrary action no matter how u feel. If you wait till u feel ok about it, well it might never come. Just take the action even if u feel uncomfortable & eventually, it won't feel so difficult anymore.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago | pl

    How do you eat an elephant?

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  • jensapa
    12 years ago | pl

    It's easier to stay in a situation even if your unhappy, then it is to change. Try not to be so negative and ask your self, what have I got to lose?

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  • Tortugah
    12 years ago | pl

    Change is scary wether it is for better or worse. We are so used to our situation that we feel uneasy about having to take a different direction. However, it is encouraging to think that you can always keep changing if at first you don't like the results. It might be hard to change back sometimes, but it is always possible to keep changing forward.

    I used to know someone who always said that it is not about changing who you are, it's about becoming a better version of yourself, the best you can be, and there is always room for improvement.

    I hope you can take the decision that you feel is best. Good luck!

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