Is it normal that when a girl shows interest in me, i get shy and insecure

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Whenever a girl has shown interest in me in the past, I've quickly become shy and insecure and uncertain about how to react/respond. Many girls have said I am cute and wanted to talk with me but I guess I'm just all fluff and no substance. I pretend to be more confident than I actually am but when it comes down to I am really a big baby. I'm a virgin because although I've picked up on some girls liking me, I feel insecure about my penis size and thought any girl would laugh in my face if she ever saw it. I also feel awkward touching girls or getting physically close or intimate with them. The farthest I've ever gotten in a relationship was when I was sitting down and a girl sat on my lap with her legs to my side and I grabbed her ass in tight jeans and pulled her in closer to my body and she put her arms around me and gave me a really great hug and then we kissed. But ever since she moved away, I've been feeling bad about not doing things that normal couples do in relationships like sharing their feelings and touching each other and having sex. I want to do these things but I'm so afraid that a girl will back away from me just when I'm emotionally involved with her and I've made a commitment. I'm fearful of the pain that comes with being dumped when I'm so into her and don't want her to leave me.

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  • LDlauren
    9 years ago | pl

    Everyone is shy about it but in the end the worst thing that can happen is that she turns you down you feel bad about it for a week and get over it and move on and more often than not shell be more scared than you about it PS I have had sex with guys who had a small. Penis and it did not take away from the experients

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  • shuggy-chan
    9 years ago | pl

    ohhhh to be a teen again

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  • stevieo
    9 years ago | pl

    im 25 and still deal with this.i avoid the though even the emotions,that i have and in doing so i still feel this way,not saying im a virgin,even after sex i still feel this way how akward,

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    • GinaHead
      9 years ago | pl

      You will stay that way until you cease your attempts to convince yourself and everyone else that you're a helpless victim. You're the creator of your own demise.

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