I, for one, get freaked out when ANYONE tries to communicate with me but, like I said, that's just me, i'm kinda a solitary person. :P i'd like to speak to a couple parts of your question, actually. so the first sentence: maybe i'm reading it wrong, but it kinda sounds like you think people can tell when someone dresses for attention or to make people look at them and when they don't. if people are dressed up, that doesn't necessarily mean they want people to pay attention to them, in the way listed or otherwise: maybe it's professional attire; maybe they're going somewhere fancy; maybe they just personally like dressing in a certain way. I know I personally like getting all dolled up, but I don't do it for anyone else to compliment me; if they do it and it happens in a way where I don't get creeped out, then I guess that's just kinda an added bonus in addition to feeling good about myself and having a good time.
the thing is, we live in a world where you can never tell who wants what from you: who genuinely cares about you, who genuinely enjoys your sense of style, who's looking for sex or a relationship, who's looking to dehumanize and objectify you, who might kill you if things go a bit further. in my experience, when guys say/do stuff like what you listed to me, it's usually done in a way to humiliate and unnerve me. granted, i'll admit i'm not all that attractive; i'm actually fucking ugly. so I can't apply my experience to EVERYONE'S experience, obviously, but I think a lotta people will agree with me here. it's usually done with the intent to show some sort of power over me, like "oh, I can make you feel uncomfortable and take you down a peg because you seem to be having a good day, and you can't do anything about it because i'm in control in this situation". and, even if that's not YOUR SPECIFIC INTENTION, there's really no way for the person on the receiving end to know, and it's just ENOUGH people doing this where, statistically, it's more likely that that's their intent. in short, it really creeps people out when other people approach them in this way, and some people react to being creeped out in different ways.
also, it's important to note that you don't owe anybody else ANYWAY. it's like when people yell at other people on the street to smile; they don't OWE the yelling individual the smile. maybe that's a little off-topic, I dunno, I felt like it had a place here but maybe i'm wrong.
IIN that some women are offended if a man thinks they are attractive
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I, for one, get freaked out when ANYONE tries to communicate with me but, like I said, that's just me, i'm kinda a solitary person. :P i'd like to speak to a couple parts of your question, actually. so the first sentence: maybe i'm reading it wrong, but it kinda sounds like you think people can tell when someone dresses for attention or to make people look at them and when they don't. if people are dressed up, that doesn't necessarily mean they want people to pay attention to them, in the way listed or otherwise: maybe it's professional attire; maybe they're going somewhere fancy; maybe they just personally like dressing in a certain way. I know I personally like getting all dolled up, but I don't do it for anyone else to compliment me; if they do it and it happens in a way where I don't get creeped out, then I guess that's just kinda an added bonus in addition to feeling good about myself and having a good time.
the thing is, we live in a world where you can never tell who wants what from you: who genuinely cares about you, who genuinely enjoys your sense of style, who's looking for sex or a relationship, who's looking to dehumanize and objectify you, who might kill you if things go a bit further. in my experience, when guys say/do stuff like what you listed to me, it's usually done in a way to humiliate and unnerve me. granted, i'll admit i'm not all that attractive; i'm actually fucking ugly. so I can't apply my experience to EVERYONE'S experience, obviously, but I think a lotta people will agree with me here. it's usually done with the intent to show some sort of power over me, like "oh, I can make you feel uncomfortable and take you down a peg because you seem to be having a good day, and you can't do anything about it because i'm in control in this situation". and, even if that's not YOUR SPECIFIC INTENTION, there's really no way for the person on the receiving end to know, and it's just ENOUGH people doing this where, statistically, it's more likely that that's their intent. in short, it really creeps people out when other people approach them in this way, and some people react to being creeped out in different ways.
also, it's important to note that you don't owe anybody else ANYWAY. it's like when people yell at other people on the street to smile; they don't OWE the yelling individual the smile. maybe that's a little off-topic, I dunno, I felt like it had a place here but maybe i'm wrong.