For me, it depends. Compliments are fine; I'll just smile, thank the guy, and continue doing whatever I was doing without furthering the conversation.
It's the subtle flirting I dislike. It's that kind of flirting where a guy (or woman) behaves like they want to become your friend, but really they just want to date you or get some ass. Even worse, they rarely ask if you're in a relationship or even interested in dating.
For example:
Guy: Hey! Um, where do I find a Subway around here?
Me: Oh, it's on this street, just walk to the corner.
Guy: Thanks! Have you ever had Subway?! It's really great!
Me: Yeah! My favorite sandwich is.....
Yeah, you get it... During this innocent conversation, somehow the other person thinks I'm romantically interested. It's annoying, because I'm always friendly and polite unless you give me a reason not to.
Never have I met someone direct about it. I would be very happy if people would be straightforward with what they want.
For example:
Guy: Hey, you're really cute and I want to get to know you. Are you seeing someone?
Me: Thank you, but yeah, I am seeing someone. I really appreciate you asking.
Guy: Okay, nice talking to you! Bye!
Me: You too! See ya!
Even if he was only interested in sex, this example above would be so refreshing.
I'm sorry but your advice is a bit silly. Can you imagine how awkward it would be for a guy, any guy, to walk around and out of the blue just say that to a random woman? Anyone, (man or woman) would probably not be expecting that sort of forwardness. And it probably wouldn't be met with an overall positive response. Sure there is a chance it could work, but it is a small one.
The first example you put forward is far more realistic. Maybe the guy was just making small talk conversation and if there was some connection he would than ask about if you are single, etc...Maybe he really was just in a talkative mood and was excited about going to Subway and was getting a sandwich for his significant other.
Also, most men and women I encounter rarely ask if I'm single or interested. They establish a connection and assume it's going somewhere, then become highly upset later when it isn't.
Becoming highly upset isn't appropriate, especially since it was their own fault for making an assumption.
In my experience most women (especially if they are happy in the relationship) make it a point to mention casually if they are not single. I ask pointed questions that lead into it being mentioned so minimal time is wasted.
IIN that some women are offended if a man thinks they are attractive
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For me, it depends. Compliments are fine; I'll just smile, thank the guy, and continue doing whatever I was doing without furthering the conversation.
It's the subtle flirting I dislike. It's that kind of flirting where a guy (or woman) behaves like they want to become your friend, but really they just want to date you or get some ass. Even worse, they rarely ask if you're in a relationship or even interested in dating.
For example:
Guy: Hey! Um, where do I find a Subway around here?
Me: Oh, it's on this street, just walk to the corner.
Guy: Thanks! Have you ever had Subway?! It's really great!
Me: Yeah! My favorite sandwich is.....
Yeah, you get it... During this innocent conversation, somehow the other person thinks I'm romantically interested. It's annoying, because I'm always friendly and polite unless you give me a reason not to.
Never have I met someone direct about it. I would be very happy if people would be straightforward with what they want.
For example:
Guy: Hey, you're really cute and I want to get to know you. Are you seeing someone?
Me: Thank you, but yeah, I am seeing someone. I really appreciate you asking.
Guy: Okay, nice talking to you! Bye!
Me: You too! See ya!
Even if he was only interested in sex, this example above would be so refreshing.
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I'm sorry but your advice is a bit silly. Can you imagine how awkward it would be for a guy, any guy, to walk around and out of the blue just say that to a random woman? Anyone, (man or woman) would probably not be expecting that sort of forwardness. And it probably wouldn't be met with an overall positive response. Sure there is a chance it could work, but it is a small one.
The first example you put forward is far more realistic. Maybe the guy was just making small talk conversation and if there was some connection he would than ask about if you are single, etc...Maybe he really was just in a talkative mood and was excited about going to Subway and was getting a sandwich for his significant other.
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It doesn't seem awkward to me.
Also, most men and women I encounter rarely ask if I'm single or interested. They establish a connection and assume it's going somewhere, then become highly upset later when it isn't.
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Becoming highly upset isn't appropriate, especially since it was their own fault for making an assumption.
In my experience most women (especially if they are happy in the relationship) make it a point to mention casually if they are not single. I ask pointed questions that lead into it being mentioned so minimal time is wasted.