Its becos it gets old really fast. Acknowledging the hello is like feeding a dog you just increased the chance it will follow you home. You might be the greatest guy in the world but if you don't a better approach than what is described above your going to get blown off 99 out of 100 times. The problem is even if your wonderful if you act like all the others you will be put in the category of all the others. If I go to a club or bar I refuse every drink offer than comes my way. Its the stupidest opener ever and if thats all you got I know your not for me. What guys don't understand is that women are hit by a near constant barrage of come ons and you have to have a filter becos you certainly don't have time to date 25+ new guys every week.
So am I offended? No I just don't have time to have every random guy I come across chat me up. If I'm in line at Starbucks you have however long it takes them to make my drink but honestly I will stop listening or fake getting a phone call if your not interesting to me.
Do I care if you stare? No I don't go out in anything I'd be embarrassed to be seen in. If you catch me at Walmart at 3am I hope you like pajama pants and a baggy tshirt. If you see me after the gym you'll get the yoga pants view. If I'm at a club I usually wear a skirt or dress with heels. I wear what I think is comfortable and appropriate for the activity.
My filtering also includes if your not at least 5 years older than me your starting at a disadvantage I just like older guys. If your car is old or full of trash thats another strike unless its old on purpose becos its a special car. If you live with your parents thats another strike. If you don't have a job thats another. If you don't look like you know how to take care of yourself... fat or need haircut or clothes are wrinkled like you slept in them or any number of other things that indicate your not ready to be a grown up thats another strike.
I could go on and on but this is already to long but the idea that women are offended by you saying hello is likely something you tell yourself so it can be all the womans fault. The staring part is rude but whatever its part of life.
Yep but you have to give her credit for being honest.
Men have so little concrete facts to go by because women usually remain silent when it comes to their reasoning. I'd say her thoughts are echoed by a great many other women.
See. There is no reason we can't be on friendly terms. I said what I did becos I actually want more quality and I think guys are capable of doing it but don't know how.
Yeah I think we can be more than friends. Truth be told you'd make a very good mistress for me. Here on the Internet we have a chance to really speak our mind and tell our true feelings. I bet we already know more about each other than many of our past mates. Still, knowing that you are mental and slightly stuck up somehow excites me.
Whats wrong don't like honesty? I just gave all those single guys some of the best information they may ever get and as far as I can tell this is not a women now-a-days thing. I guess it kinda sucks if all your trying to do is get a quick piece of ass but if a guy is actually interested in a quality woman he better be a quality guy. I get hit on all-the-time and 99% of the guys never really have a chance becos they don't meet my standards which btw I am allowed to have. Sorry if this conflicts with your women are here to bow to your every need point-of-view but this is the game and if your going to play you should at least know the rules.
By having so many different "boxes" to check off for guys you may be depriving yourself of some quality guys just by them not meeting one of the criteria. Nobody is perfect. I can understand the need for a mature guy, good hygiene, good appearance and a job.
But at the same time a guy who meets most of those criteria is probably still going to walk up to you, say hello and maybe offer to buy you a drink. Nothing wrong with that. And nothing wrong with being polite back to him. Nothing wrong with having standards, but being realistic with those standards is important also. Real life interactions aren't going to be like what you see in a movie.
While you may get bombarded now with male attention, that won't last. The older you get the more the advantage swings back to guys, just as an FYI.
Yeah well I guess it was good to get an honest reply.
Once I think about it I'm kinda the same way towards women. 99% of them are just not worth my time so I just ignore them, they simply don't exist. I've turned down a lot of women in my day, to the point where one women thought I must be gay...hahaha. In fact a few thought that because I just was not interested in their 'game'.
If this world were a fruit market it would be full of picked over rotten fruit. Some of which is rotten to the core but made to look good on the outside.
I didn't read the whole thing but what you said is basically true. So it's "just a hello" (even tho the OP makes it clear he is attracted to her and has checked her out). It's not offensive, I'm not gonna roll my eyes or anything like the OP said; but I'm not gonna be all that impressed with him either, since (based on experience) majority of the time guys want to talk to a female is simply cause they find her physically attractive, and otherwise have nothing in common, therefore cannot hold any meaningful conversation. (but keep around like a dog as you said..lol. "beta orbiters")
IIN that some women are offended if a man thinks they are attractive
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Its becos it gets old really fast. Acknowledging the hello is like feeding a dog you just increased the chance it will follow you home. You might be the greatest guy in the world but if you don't a better approach than what is described above your going to get blown off 99 out of 100 times. The problem is even if your wonderful if you act like all the others you will be put in the category of all the others. If I go to a club or bar I refuse every drink offer than comes my way. Its the stupidest opener ever and if thats all you got I know your not for me. What guys don't understand is that women are hit by a near constant barrage of come ons and you have to have a filter becos you certainly don't have time to date 25+ new guys every week.
So am I offended? No I just don't have time to have every random guy I come across chat me up. If I'm in line at Starbucks you have however long it takes them to make my drink but honestly I will stop listening or fake getting a phone call if your not interesting to me.
Do I care if you stare? No I don't go out in anything I'd be embarrassed to be seen in. If you catch me at Walmart at 3am I hope you like pajama pants and a baggy tshirt. If you see me after the gym you'll get the yoga pants view. If I'm at a club I usually wear a skirt or dress with heels. I wear what I think is comfortable and appropriate for the activity.
My filtering also includes if your not at least 5 years older than me your starting at a disadvantage I just like older guys. If your car is old or full of trash thats another strike unless its old on purpose becos its a special car. If you live with your parents thats another strike. If you don't have a job thats another. If you don't look like you know how to take care of yourself... fat or need haircut or clothes are wrinkled like you slept in them or any number of other things that indicate your not ready to be a grown up thats another strike.
I could go on and on but this is already to long but the idea that women are offended by you saying hello is likely something you tell yourself so it can be all the womans fault. The staring part is rude but whatever its part of life.
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Wow.
I'm so glad I'm married and don't give women the time of day.
Good luck to all you single guys....women now-a-days stink!
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Oh yeah, this is what men literally have to deal with today. Just reading her post is enough to make most men consider not even taking the field....
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Yep but you have to give her credit for being honest.
Men have so little concrete facts to go by because women usually remain silent when it comes to their reasoning. I'd say her thoughts are echoed by a great many other women.
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See. There is no reason we can't be on friendly terms. I said what I did becos I actually want more quality and I think guys are capable of doing it but don't know how.
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Yeah I think we can be more than friends. Truth be told you'd make a very good mistress for me. Here on the Internet we have a chance to really speak our mind and tell our true feelings. I bet we already know more about each other than many of our past mates. Still, knowing that you are mental and slightly stuck up somehow excites me.
Overall I do think it is good advice, just like what I gave you above.
No thank you for not bothering us.
Whats wrong don't like honesty? I just gave all those single guys some of the best information they may ever get and as far as I can tell this is not a women now-a-days thing. I guess it kinda sucks if all your trying to do is get a quick piece of ass but if a guy is actually interested in a quality woman he better be a quality guy. I get hit on all-the-time and 99% of the guys never really have a chance becos they don't meet my standards which btw I am allowed to have. Sorry if this conflicts with your women are here to bow to your every need point-of-view but this is the game and if your going to play you should at least know the rules.
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By having so many different "boxes" to check off for guys you may be depriving yourself of some quality guys just by them not meeting one of the criteria. Nobody is perfect. I can understand the need for a mature guy, good hygiene, good appearance and a job.
But at the same time a guy who meets most of those criteria is probably still going to walk up to you, say hello and maybe offer to buy you a drink. Nothing wrong with that. And nothing wrong with being polite back to him. Nothing wrong with having standards, but being realistic with those standards is important also. Real life interactions aren't going to be like what you see in a movie.
While you may get bombarded now with male attention, that won't last. The older you get the more the advantage swings back to guys, just as an FYI.
Yeah well I guess it was good to get an honest reply.
Once I think about it I'm kinda the same way towards women. 99% of them are just not worth my time so I just ignore them, they simply don't exist. I've turned down a lot of women in my day, to the point where one women thought I must be gay...hahaha. In fact a few thought that because I just was not interested in their 'game'.
If this world were a fruit market it would be full of picked over rotten fruit. Some of which is rotten to the core but made to look good on the outside.
I didn't read the whole thing but what you said is basically true. So it's "just a hello" (even tho the OP makes it clear he is attracted to her and has checked her out). It's not offensive, I'm not gonna roll my eyes or anything like the OP said; but I'm not gonna be all that impressed with him either, since (based on experience) majority of the time guys want to talk to a female is simply cause they find her physically attractive, and otherwise have nothing in common, therefore cannot hold any meaningful conversation. (but keep around like a dog as you said..lol. "beta orbiters")
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True.