Is it normal that my wife wants more time with her lesbian girlfriend

Months ago, my wife told me that she wanted to date this lesbian once every couple of weeks. Told me that she loves me and doesn't want to leave the marriage. She's now seeing her 5-6 days a week. Tells me that she loves me more now than she ever has. I really love my wife. At least she reassures me that she loves me more and isn't leaving me. She seems to be happy when she's home with me for a couple of days a week. Says she can still see me but she has to be with her girlfriend almost every night because she needs her there.

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Comments ( 35 )
  • Yennifer_Of_Vengerburg

    Try and snag some quality time with her set up some really nice dates and get more time. If you wanna keep her don't get mad just tell her you need to spend time with her as well and that your not asking much considering your letting her have another relationship

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  • SmokeEverything

    It's called an open marriage, this means you get to have sex with other people too.

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  • Carlton03

    Love her*

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  • It was her idea and I could tell that it was what she wanted.

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    • poolmansk8

      is she interested in a MFF?

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  • redrainbow22

    What? Is this real?

    Why would you allow your wife to date another chick?

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    • RoseIsabella

      That's hella messed up.

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      • redrainbow22

        Its retarded lol

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        • RoseIsabella

          I wouldn't call it retarded, because I don't want to insult actual retarded people.

          >:-D

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          • redrainbow22

            haha

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      • Ellenna

        I don't agree: not everyone is into monogamy

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  • Carlton03

    Okay I see, that guy was a fuckin creep it seemed!!! God telling the details is
    Disgusting, hate that, he just wanted his ego stroked that's why he would do that probably, also he can but you can't!!!!! GOD WTF!!!! Rules should be same for all

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  • randypete

    does she let you watch?

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  • Ellenna

    This situation isn't as uncommon as you might think and I'm sorry, but there's not much you can do about it except keep loving her. You're obviously not the type of bloke who wants to own her so stay generous and loving or you'll lose her to her woman lover permanently.

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    • Yes, she needs me to fully support her wanting to be with her girlfriend.

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    • Ellena, am I doing the right thing?

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      • Ellenna

        I think you are, even though you run the risk of losing her to a woman you'll definitely lose her if you forbid her from spending time with her lover.

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  • 1986

    I think she is bisexual and she doesnt want tell you that because she doesnt wonna hurt you. But it's true. You should openly talk with your wife about this situation. But I think she is cheating you buddy.

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    • Ellenna

      You "think she's bisexual"? Gee that must've been hard for you to work out. How is it cheating if he agreed to it? Not everyone wants to be in monogamous relationships and why would he have had any right to forbid it?

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      • I researched on a lesbian website and read this article that explained how important it is for the husband to support his wife and even her girlfriend, even if they are living together and need money.

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      • She wants and needs to be with her girlfriend, so I have to support her and her girlfriend.

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        • Avant-Garde

          No. It definitely sounds like you're being taken advantage of.

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          • Are you sure? She does tell me that she loves me.

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  • anothertime

    only if all 3 of you share the same bed-house.

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    • Ellenna

      But that's obviously not what she wants and here's some news for you, not all bi women want a bloke in bed with them as well as a woman lover: bi doesn't necessarily mean threesomes

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  • Carlton03

    What the fuck ammmm man she is cheating weather she's by seuxal or not with a man or woman anything other than you is cheating bro!!!! You live her too, I feel bad for you but you must chat to her mate

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    • Ellenna

      Not cheating if he consented: you need to get out more, many people don't try and own or control their partners sexually

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      • Carlton03

        Yeah not so quick to answer are you?

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        • Ellenna

          What? I do have a life apart from this site!

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      • Carlton03

        What's how much or how little I go out have to do with the fact that she went to her husband and said she wants to date another person and now sees this person 5 - 6 days a week? if your husband/partner came to you and said the same then saw the person same amount per week what would you think? Let's use a bit of common sense instead of commenting how often I go out, has absolutely no relevance in this situation.

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        • Ellenna

          It was a figure of speech to indicate that I reckon you live a fairly restricted life.

          I don't have a partner as such right now (not celibate though) and I have been in exactly that situation. I loved the person enough to not try and control what she did with her other lover. It didn't end well but that wasn't because of any possessiveness on my part.

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          • Carlton03

            Okay I see, hmmm it's kind of restricted I guess, anyways I'm happy ATM, well that seems strange to me that anyone would be happy to be in an open relationship like that as they are called... so you loved her, didn't it kill you to know she was spending time/physical with someone else?

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            • Ellenna

              No, that wouldn't kill anyone. Our sexual relationship was practically non-existent after being together for many years, which is the norm in most relationships, let's face it. I was ok with their sexual relationship, I only got upset when I was being cut out of the rest of our former life together and the fact that they were carrying on practically in front of me and ignoring me (we were all living in the same house at the time).

              Before that when I was married to a bloke I didn't care that he had other sexual relationships as long as he still had sex with me, but I did object to two things, firstly that he originally lied to me and then that he wanted to tell me all the details of his sex with other people. Oh and thirdly, that it was only an open marriage for him but not for me!

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