Im not sexually attracted to. I know what she's doing is wrong and I'm not condoning it. I just don't want her to think I am upset with her at a time in her life I know is difficult. She's reclusive around others and I'm pretty much all she's got. I just want to know how to approach the conversation. I don't want her to be embarrassed, or to feel like I love her any less. All I want is to help her with something I spent years agonising over.
I'm not a troll, but even if you think I am, thank you for at least speaking hypothetically.
Okay, maybe you are not a troll. There is like a 1 in 300 million chance of winning the lottery, I suppose there is at least the same probability that your story is true.
Let me ask you a few questions.
What would you do if you found a crackpipe and some rocks in her room? Would you "let her experiment"?
What would you do if you came home and found her in her room having sex with 3 much older guys while a 4th video-tapes it? Would you leave her to it so she "wouldn't get embarrassed?"
How about if you came home and found her in the loungeroom on all fours, with a German Shepherd balls deep and knotted in her quim? Would you just ignore it because the conversation might be a little "awkward"?
You know there are things in life you CANT help your sister with. You say she is a straight A student, but if she did struggle with a subject, you know you can't just go take the test for her. You would advise her, and help her to learn for herself.
Same here. You can advise her that bisexuality is normal. You can even advise her that it is normal for a teenager to have sexual fantasies about family members. However, if you act as her "test subject" and allow a sexual relationship between the two of you, then YOU need to be ready to take responsibility for ALL that entails - after all, YOU are the adult here.
My "suggestion" for what it is worth - next time she starts groping you, gently take her hand and say "Sis, I love you more than the sun and the moon and would do almost anything for you, but it's not normal for sisters to have sex. It makes me feel uncomfortable and I honestly believe that if anything happened, we would regret it later." Then be supportive and answer her questions.
Help her socialise more. Encourage her to spend more time with friends. Get her involved in a youth group (I'd recommend a non-Christian one, but then I'm not Christian), or even a LGBT support group for teens. I'd suggest some sort of counselling, but I realise that probably isn't an option with the costs involved in America.
Getting it on with your sister may be the "easiest" option, but in life, the easiest path is usually not the best path - and you do want what is best for your sister don't you?
IIN that my sister is curious?
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Im not sexually attracted to. I know what she's doing is wrong and I'm not condoning it. I just don't want her to think I am upset with her at a time in her life I know is difficult. She's reclusive around others and I'm pretty much all she's got. I just want to know how to approach the conversation. I don't want her to be embarrassed, or to feel like I love her any less. All I want is to help her with something I spent years agonising over.
I'm not a troll, but even if you think I am, thank you for at least speaking hypothetically.
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Okay, maybe you are not a troll. There is like a 1 in 300 million chance of winning the lottery, I suppose there is at least the same probability that your story is true.
Let me ask you a few questions.
What would you do if you found a crackpipe and some rocks in her room? Would you "let her experiment"?
What would you do if you came home and found her in her room having sex with 3 much older guys while a 4th video-tapes it? Would you leave her to it so she "wouldn't get embarrassed?"
How about if you came home and found her in the loungeroom on all fours, with a German Shepherd balls deep and knotted in her quim? Would you just ignore it because the conversation might be a little "awkward"?
You know there are things in life you CANT help your sister with. You say she is a straight A student, but if she did struggle with a subject, you know you can't just go take the test for her. You would advise her, and help her to learn for herself.
Same here. You can advise her that bisexuality is normal. You can even advise her that it is normal for a teenager to have sexual fantasies about family members. However, if you act as her "test subject" and allow a sexual relationship between the two of you, then YOU need to be ready to take responsibility for ALL that entails - after all, YOU are the adult here.
My "suggestion" for what it is worth - next time she starts groping you, gently take her hand and say "Sis, I love you more than the sun and the moon and would do almost anything for you, but it's not normal for sisters to have sex. It makes me feel uncomfortable and I honestly believe that if anything happened, we would regret it later." Then be supportive and answer her questions.
Help her socialise more. Encourage her to spend more time with friends. Get her involved in a youth group (I'd recommend a non-Christian one, but then I'm not Christian), or even a LGBT support group for teens. I'd suggest some sort of counselling, but I realise that probably isn't an option with the costs involved in America.
Getting it on with your sister may be the "easiest" option, but in life, the easiest path is usually not the best path - and you do want what is best for your sister don't you?