Your post stands out amongst the other 38 "my lesbian sister" posts I have read this week in that you obviously passed basic English, and know what a paragraph is. It is really refreshing to read something that wasn't written by a mostly illiterate 13 year old typing left handed.
You have elequently expressed the problem, that of a bisexual woman who is conflicted by the obvious sexual attentions of her attractive younger sister. You have skilfully managed to avoid the usual pitfalls of crudity and gross explicitness that plagues incest posts in this forum. You have even managed to turn the usual exploitative nature of the situation around, inferring that you are considering just letting her experiment purely because you like to spoil her and that she is such a "good girl" in every other area.
The problem however is that the post betrays you. Clearly, it was written by someone with at least average intelligence, and shows a level of maturity well above the normal for this forum. Therefore, it boggles the mind that you would be unaware of the perils of "allowing" a sexual relationship between sisters 21 and 16 years of age.
Let us, simply for the sake of discussion, presume all that you have said is in fact true.
You have already expressed that the two of you have been "attached at the hip" for the past 6 months. As a 21 year old woman, you are not so old to have forgotten how feelings are amplified in a teenager. Your sister is still feeling rejected by your parents. Simple common sense would indicate that a sexual relationship between you and your sister at this time will almost certainly result in her placing her entire emotional stock into the relationship with you.
So, what will happen when your girlfriend comes over next? Your sister will feel betrayed. It will be as though you went to your girlfriends place and found her in the arms of another lover - only more intense. I can't even begin to imagine how your sister will react if you decided to cease "fooling around" with her so that you could actually persue a relationship yourself.
Let's not ignore the other factor here, not only is she your sister, but at 16 she is under the age of consent. Technically, we are talking Statutory Rape here, as well as Incest. Now, let's say as a result of your eventual rejection of her, she decides to do something stupid like try and kill herself. Then, in the haze of depression in the ER, she truthfully answers the questions of the doctors - and your little "liaison" becomes open knowledge. She gets sent back to your mother, and you have the rest of your life ruined. We won't even go into the psychological damage she will suffer.
Now, if your little story WERE true, you would know all this already by virtue of your obvious intelligence. This in and of itself would make any SANE person realise that the correct course of action would certainly not be "just let her play".
QED, you are a troll. Granted, a particularly intelligent one, and for that I applaud you. Well done!
Yeah, it does, could be 16, 17 or 18. And it's usually the same for straight and gay sex. Of course the incest part may well make it illegal anyway. I just like to correct that misconception because it's so common, even among Americans.
Over here (Australia) it's now 16 for heterosexual sex, 18 for homosexual sex in all states. There used to be some wild deviations (pardon the pun) in the age of consent, from 13 for girls in one state, to 18 for guys in another. Thankfully they made it all uniform.
I still personally feel the difference between Heteosexual consent and homosexual consent is kind of wrong, but from what I've seen it seems somewhat common globally to tie homosexual consent with "adulthood". Of course, it's been a few years since I actually did any real research on that (no real interest as I'm not gay), and with most places becoming more "gay tolerant" these days things may have changed.
Im not sexually attracted to. I know what she's doing is wrong and I'm not condoning it. I just don't want her to think I am upset with her at a time in her life I know is difficult. She's reclusive around others and I'm pretty much all she's got. I just want to know how to approach the conversation. I don't want her to be embarrassed, or to feel like I love her any less. All I want is to help her with something I spent years agonising over.
I'm not a troll, but even if you think I am, thank you for at least speaking hypothetically.
Okay, maybe you are not a troll. There is like a 1 in 300 million chance of winning the lottery, I suppose there is at least the same probability that your story is true.
Let me ask you a few questions.
What would you do if you found a crackpipe and some rocks in her room? Would you "let her experiment"?
What would you do if you came home and found her in her room having sex with 3 much older guys while a 4th video-tapes it? Would you leave her to it so she "wouldn't get embarrassed?"
How about if you came home and found her in the loungeroom on all fours, with a German Shepherd balls deep and knotted in her quim? Would you just ignore it because the conversation might be a little "awkward"?
You know there are things in life you CANT help your sister with. You say she is a straight A student, but if she did struggle with a subject, you know you can't just go take the test for her. You would advise her, and help her to learn for herself.
Same here. You can advise her that bisexuality is normal. You can even advise her that it is normal for a teenager to have sexual fantasies about family members. However, if you act as her "test subject" and allow a sexual relationship between the two of you, then YOU need to be ready to take responsibility for ALL that entails - after all, YOU are the adult here.
My "suggestion" for what it is worth - next time she starts groping you, gently take her hand and say "Sis, I love you more than the sun and the moon and would do almost anything for you, but it's not normal for sisters to have sex. It makes me feel uncomfortable and I honestly believe that if anything happened, we would regret it later." Then be supportive and answer her questions.
Help her socialise more. Encourage her to spend more time with friends. Get her involved in a youth group (I'd recommend a non-Christian one, but then I'm not Christian), or even a LGBT support group for teens. I'd suggest some sort of counselling, but I realise that probably isn't an option with the costs involved in America.
Getting it on with your sister may be the "easiest" option, but in life, the easiest path is usually not the best path - and you do want what is best for your sister don't you?
IIN that my sister is curious?
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Your post stands out amongst the other 38 "my lesbian sister" posts I have read this week in that you obviously passed basic English, and know what a paragraph is. It is really refreshing to read something that wasn't written by a mostly illiterate 13 year old typing left handed.
You have elequently expressed the problem, that of a bisexual woman who is conflicted by the obvious sexual attentions of her attractive younger sister. You have skilfully managed to avoid the usual pitfalls of crudity and gross explicitness that plagues incest posts in this forum. You have even managed to turn the usual exploitative nature of the situation around, inferring that you are considering just letting her experiment purely because you like to spoil her and that she is such a "good girl" in every other area.
The problem however is that the post betrays you. Clearly, it was written by someone with at least average intelligence, and shows a level of maturity well above the normal for this forum. Therefore, it boggles the mind that you would be unaware of the perils of "allowing" a sexual relationship between sisters 21 and 16 years of age.
Let us, simply for the sake of discussion, presume all that you have said is in fact true.
You have already expressed that the two of you have been "attached at the hip" for the past 6 months. As a 21 year old woman, you are not so old to have forgotten how feelings are amplified in a teenager. Your sister is still feeling rejected by your parents. Simple common sense would indicate that a sexual relationship between you and your sister at this time will almost certainly result in her placing her entire emotional stock into the relationship with you.
So, what will happen when your girlfriend comes over next? Your sister will feel betrayed. It will be as though you went to your girlfriends place and found her in the arms of another lover - only more intense. I can't even begin to imagine how your sister will react if you decided to cease "fooling around" with her so that you could actually persue a relationship yourself.
Let's not ignore the other factor here, not only is she your sister, but at 16 she is under the age of consent. Technically, we are talking Statutory Rape here, as well as Incest. Now, let's say as a result of your eventual rejection of her, she decides to do something stupid like try and kill herself. Then, in the haze of depression in the ER, she truthfully answers the questions of the doctors - and your little "liaison" becomes open knowledge. She gets sent back to your mother, and you have the rest of your life ruined. We won't even go into the psychological damage she will suffer.
Now, if your little story WERE true, you would know all this already by virtue of your obvious intelligence. This in and of itself would make any SANE person realise that the correct course of action would certainly not be "just let her play".
QED, you are a troll. Granted, a particularly intelligent one, and for that I applaud you. Well done!
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How do you know she's under the age of consent when she didn't tell us what state Unspecified City is in?
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It varies state to state in the USA?
Most places worldwide the age of content for a homosexual "encounter" is 18.
Overall, doesn't change my opinion of the post anyway.
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Yeah, it does, could be 16, 17 or 18. And it's usually the same for straight and gay sex. Of course the incest part may well make it illegal anyway. I just like to correct that misconception because it's so common, even among Americans.
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Over here (Australia) it's now 16 for heterosexual sex, 18 for homosexual sex in all states. There used to be some wild deviations (pardon the pun) in the age of consent, from 13 for girls in one state, to 18 for guys in another. Thankfully they made it all uniform.
I still personally feel the difference between Heteosexual consent and homosexual consent is kind of wrong, but from what I've seen it seems somewhat common globally to tie homosexual consent with "adulthood". Of course, it's been a few years since I actually did any real research on that (no real interest as I'm not gay), and with most places becoming more "gay tolerant" these days things may have changed.
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Glad I could help.
Im not sexually attracted to. I know what she's doing is wrong and I'm not condoning it. I just don't want her to think I am upset with her at a time in her life I know is difficult. She's reclusive around others and I'm pretty much all she's got. I just want to know how to approach the conversation. I don't want her to be embarrassed, or to feel like I love her any less. All I want is to help her with something I spent years agonising over.
I'm not a troll, but even if you think I am, thank you for at least speaking hypothetically.
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Okay, maybe you are not a troll. There is like a 1 in 300 million chance of winning the lottery, I suppose there is at least the same probability that your story is true.
Let me ask you a few questions.
What would you do if you found a crackpipe and some rocks in her room? Would you "let her experiment"?
What would you do if you came home and found her in her room having sex with 3 much older guys while a 4th video-tapes it? Would you leave her to it so she "wouldn't get embarrassed?"
How about if you came home and found her in the loungeroom on all fours, with a German Shepherd balls deep and knotted in her quim? Would you just ignore it because the conversation might be a little "awkward"?
You know there are things in life you CANT help your sister with. You say she is a straight A student, but if she did struggle with a subject, you know you can't just go take the test for her. You would advise her, and help her to learn for herself.
Same here. You can advise her that bisexuality is normal. You can even advise her that it is normal for a teenager to have sexual fantasies about family members. However, if you act as her "test subject" and allow a sexual relationship between the two of you, then YOU need to be ready to take responsibility for ALL that entails - after all, YOU are the adult here.
My "suggestion" for what it is worth - next time she starts groping you, gently take her hand and say "Sis, I love you more than the sun and the moon and would do almost anything for you, but it's not normal for sisters to have sex. It makes me feel uncomfortable and I honestly believe that if anything happened, we would regret it later." Then be supportive and answer her questions.
Help her socialise more. Encourage her to spend more time with friends. Get her involved in a youth group (I'd recommend a non-Christian one, but then I'm not Christian), or even a LGBT support group for teens. I'd suggest some sort of counselling, but I realise that probably isn't an option with the costs involved in America.
Getting it on with your sister may be the "easiest" option, but in life, the easiest path is usually not the best path - and you do want what is best for your sister don't you?