Kick him to the curb! I have gone through a similar two year nightmare of discovering my now ex wasn't the man he pretended to be. He was an extremely skilled liar. I thought he was the most ethical person I knew, a man whose life work involved helping other people, ivy league educated, cared about the downtrodden, etc..He was always romantic, made me feel I was an amazing woman, praised me for being so awesome at my job, blah, blah, blah. He made one dumb slip and I unraveled it all--years of lies, hundreds of thousands of dollars gone...he gave me a chronic STD. Yes, people say the majority of men do it. people say it's the wife's fault-she must have not been giving him enough attention, blah, blah...It comes down to do you want be with someone who thinks so little of you that he would put you in physical and financial risk? It destroys your sense of self-can you trust any of your perceptions anymore? What about all he told you--how much he loved you, you were the best thing that ever happened to him, how much he admired you, how beautiful you were? What do you do with all those shared memories of times together? All the times you were with him, he could have been thinking and plotting his next hook-up. What are you if your memories aren't what you thought they were? It nearly destroyed me. Hard work and therapy got me through it but there were many times I planned how to kill myself, the pain being so unbearable.
I can imagine the responses this might receive. "You got stuff out of the marriage too. It was your fault for not being fill in the blank. Everyone does it..."
Men or women who cheat are cowards. If they aren't happy, get out of marriage and then go fuck around. The truth is the fucking around behind partners back is what makes it so exciting for them. They get off on the thrill of the elicit because they are damaged humans.
If it has never happened to you, you can't imagine how gut wrenching it is. I never would have guessed it would happen to me. Now I have sympathy for anyone who has been cheated on.
IIN that my husband visits prostitutes when he's away on business?
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Kick him to the curb! I have gone through a similar two year nightmare of discovering my now ex wasn't the man he pretended to be. He was an extremely skilled liar. I thought he was the most ethical person I knew, a man whose life work involved helping other people, ivy league educated, cared about the downtrodden, etc..He was always romantic, made me feel I was an amazing woman, praised me for being so awesome at my job, blah, blah, blah. He made one dumb slip and I unraveled it all--years of lies, hundreds of thousands of dollars gone...he gave me a chronic STD. Yes, people say the majority of men do it. people say it's the wife's fault-she must have not been giving him enough attention, blah, blah...It comes down to do you want be with someone who thinks so little of you that he would put you in physical and financial risk? It destroys your sense of self-can you trust any of your perceptions anymore? What about all he told you--how much he loved you, you were the best thing that ever happened to him, how much he admired you, how beautiful you were? What do you do with all those shared memories of times together? All the times you were with him, he could have been thinking and plotting his next hook-up. What are you if your memories aren't what you thought they were? It nearly destroyed me. Hard work and therapy got me through it but there were many times I planned how to kill myself, the pain being so unbearable.
I can imagine the responses this might receive. "You got stuff out of the marriage too. It was your fault for not being fill in the blank. Everyone does it..."
Men or women who cheat are cowards. If they aren't happy, get out of marriage and then go fuck around. The truth is the fucking around behind partners back is what makes it so exciting for them. They get off on the thrill of the elicit because they are damaged humans.
If it has never happened to you, you can't imagine how gut wrenching it is. I never would have guessed it would happen to me. Now I have sympathy for anyone who has been cheated on.