Is it normal that my grandma insulted me when i called to wish her happy birthday?

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My grandma and my mom have a very rocky relationship, and I am often caught in the middle. It gets very exhausting having to hear them argue and yell and then listening to both their sides of the story.
My grandma currently lives in another town.
Today was her birthday. It's been about 3 weeks since I last talked with her (the call ended with me prpmising to call next day but I never did. Not proud of that, but it wasn't intentional either).
So I called my grandma to wish her a happy birthday. She responded by 7 minutes of awkward silences and telling me how I don't love her, how we all abandoned her, asking how can we be happy when we made her so miserable, telling me how disappointed she is of me, etc.

I am so damn tired of all this drama, I honestly am. I tried to be supportive of both my mom and my grandma through their arguments for more than 7 years now. Christmas fights, crying, name calling, ruined vacations, yelling, horrible accusations, all that.

But now I actually got a bit angry myself.
I understand that she hurts but the way she responded seems just so ... vindictive.
What do you think?

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  • Yobrepaid
    6 years ago

    How old is your grandmother? If she's really getting up there (80+) she could be developing dementia or Alzheimer's. When these conditions set in, it affects a person's behavior and they will say and do things that they didn't typically do before the onset of their mental disorders. My grandmother had Alzheimer's and it was so sad to see her forget who she was and say things that she would have never said when she was able-minded. I also had an uncle who exhibited similar behaviors, though I never saw him since his mind deteriorated.

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  • AntiArchon
    6 years ago

    I was constantly stressed out as a kid coz my mom and aunt always fought too like your mom and grandma did and it was a contributor to why i have anxiety and aggression issues as an adult.. you should tell them straight up how distressing their behaviour is and that you wont put up with it anymore. Seems like a family therapist is needed to get some issues really resolved.

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  • Me9900
    6 years ago

    Old ppl always start feeling sorry for themselves later in life. Be nice to her but don't be coaxed into her games.

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  • RoseIsabella
    6 years ago

    Next time send her a card instead of calling her?

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  • Yennifer_Of_Vengerburg
    6 years ago

    Shes probably misserable if no one goes to see her, poor bitch is dying and no one even threw her a party I'd be pissed if I was having a misserable ass birthday like that too

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