Is it normal that my girlfriend wants to have a 3sum with me and another guy

My girlfriend and I have been dating for 17months. Today she asked me if I wanted to have a 3sum and I said I don't know that'd weird. She said she'd wanna have it with me and another guy. This really hurt me and I don't know what to feel? Should I be upset cuz she wants to try stuff with another guy or should I be mad cuz it's technically cheating? Or should i be happy! I don't know what to think. IIN? Please help (honest answers please)

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  • nightmare28

    Do you have any pride? Do you want to cross drumsticks with another man? She wants to fuck another man, not even hide it from you, but do it right in front of your eyes, scream another man's name while with you. A woman who has any respect for her man will never do that. Furthermore, a woman who has any respect for herself would never do that.

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    • nobodyspecial

      Agreed!!!!

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    • IrishPotato

      Nonsense.
      That would mean men wouldn't have any self-respect in three-somes involving two women.

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  • Nomster!

    Why not ask her to do it with another woman? Maybe then either she will feel the way you feel or accept, either way is good because if she does understand how you felt then you could communicate it around.

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  • stickmanact

    I think its alright if she asked, I'm kinda and the same boat and leaning more towards the yes side I kinda think it would be hot to ravage her like that granted, she's OK with having a threesum with 2 girls as well it all depends on who you are

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  • IrishPotato

    :startrant:
    What the hell is this nonsense about no self-respect and cheating? Seriously.
    If his girl would propose a threesome with another girl, you'd all be like "YEAH GO FOR IT :D".

    It pisses me off how hypocritical you people are. (With exception of fishing101, TerrVie, Darkoil, Notfloydzie, Nomster!).
    There's no cheating involved, no lack of self-respect involved, nothing like that. Gawd.
    :endrant:

    Alright, so.
    First of all, don't feel hurt. Feel...trusted.
    She trusts you so much, and she's willing to open up her desires to you, even the controversial ones.
    You should definately concider it, but if you're not perfectly comfortable with doing so, don't go for it.
    Ask her if she wants to be with a girl instead, because you don't feel comfortable with a guy around. If you want to, that is.

    If she's not into that, well, then there's no threesome.
    Or, you could also offer a compromise.
    You'll do a threesome with a guy with her, and she'll do a threesome with a girl with you.
    And again, both of you need to be completely comfortable with the choice you make.
    If you're not, things will get uncomfortable, or one of you might even end up getting hurt.

    My apologies for the long post OP, butyeah. Atleast I made my point.

    Goodluck on the matter mate,
    AlexAwesome

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  • Expendable

    It can be a great fantasy, but so many people think that fantasy can be done in real life and don't think about the consequences. I would advise strongly against doing it, where would it stop? It like asking your permission to cheat, but because she's been open about it, its suddenly ok? So take her honesty as though its not meant to hurt, but tell her to keep it as fantasy, don't ever feel pressured into it. Its certainly not something I'd ever want for me and my gf

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  • fishing101

    We were swingers and we had a great time The sex was fantastic I loved watching her with another man and she enjoyed watching me with another girl We even got into some bi stuff We had some great times
    We're now divorced but sex was far from the reason
    The sex was the best part of the relationship I must say it's not for everyone So give it some serious thought
    If you can handle in you head it's great

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  • TwoEffinGreat

    I would be a little upset also. I'd question and ask her if your not satisfying her anymore or whatever the deal may be.

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  • TerryVie

    First and foremost: You should be happy that she feels confident and trusting enough to share her sexual wishes and desires openly with you.
    So no matter what you decide, feel cherished, not hurt or angry. As much as guys fantasize about threesomes with two girls, girls can fantasize about threesomes with two guys. Feeling two dicks in you is quite an experience, both concurrent and sequential.
    As it's only about sex, you should not see it as her wanting another guy(she wants YOU and another guy), and that she comes to you and asks shows that this is not about cheating. After all, you would have that experience TOGETHER. She wants you to SHARE that, not have it excluding you.

    That being said, it's not for everyone. I can only assume that seeing another guy in your girl feels the same for a guy as seeing their friend in another girl feels for a girl. It can be hot, or it can be devastating.

    Go with your feelings on this decision, but above all, be thankful she feels so close to open up to you about such things, it's not that easy asking your partner for something like that.

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  • Darkoil

    It is quite an experience double teaming a girl.

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  • Terence_the_viking

    She's cheating on you and now she is openly admiting it. If she names names then thats the people she is cheating on you with. Where you take it from here is entirely up to you. Threesomes normally start with 3 but end with 2 and you wont be one of those two.

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  • Onyx36

    No, this is far from normal. You need to drop her as soon as possible.

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    • IrishPotato

      Be a bit more open minded.
      That is all.

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