Is it normal that my girlfriend doesn't want to visit japan with me?

I told my girlfriend that I would REALLY want to visit Japan someday, but she said that she really doesn't want to. I asked her why, and she says Japan seems like an extremely scary place, controlled by the mob, and dislikes it for that reason. I tried to explain to her that Japan is literally the safest place in the world, far safer than the "shithole" we live in, but she doesn't believe me. :/

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  • olderdude-xx

    While I there is some truth to your GF's viewpoint about Japan; I believe its a bit on the extreme.

    However, that is not the issue here. The issue is must you and her have a partner that shares all dreams and goals; or can you say: OK - your free to do that and I'm free to do something else for some things.

    Solid relationships are built both on having a core set of shared activities, goals, and values; while at the same time allowing the other freedom to have and pursue activities, goals, etc that is specific to each partner.

    Time apart fulfilling individual needs is just as important as time together fulfilling joint needs.

    I see no reason why you have to take your GF to Japan. Go by yourself or with another friend. She can go somewhere she wants without you to.

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  • bunnyeatscheesecake

    I heard the most disturbing crimes from Japan, and the suicidal forest is even more creepy. When I think about Japan my first thought is sad depressing people.

    But Japan is still beautiful, if you want your girlfriend to visit Japan with you I suggest watching Japan vlogs with her she might change her mind

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  • donteatstuffoffthesidewalk

    ive been everywhere and japan korea (the correct one) & singapore are literally the safest places on the planet to visit

    shes bein stupid

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  • Meatballsandwich

    WHAT THE HELL!! Japan sounds like literally the most interesting place on earth, why the hell would anyone NOT wanna go there? :O

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  • 1WeirdGuy

    Maybe her grandad fought the japs in ww2 and shes scared of the kamakazis

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  • S0UNDS_WEIRD

    Someone stealing their grandmother's pain meds is like a mass murder there.

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  • LloydAsher

    Wish I could go to japan again. It's expensive and honestly I'm waiting for the statute of limitations to run out on theft because I accidently stole a smart phone when I moved and I was supposed to return it. Tried to retroactively close my account and pay the fees but they didnt have an english line open for those transactions.

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  • hauntedbysandwiches

    She seems paranoid, I'd love to go to Japan and plan to go

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  • SkullsNRoses

    As others have said your girlfriend has a heavily misguided view of Japan, perhaps if you show her how low the crime rate is and some of the interesting aspects of Japanese culture and history she could change her mind. If not you don’t have to take her just because she is your girlfriend, do you have friends or relatives who would want to go with you, or would you consider going alone?

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  • Somenormie

    It's normal for your partner to express how she does not want to go to a certain country.

    Personally one day I want to go over to Fukuoka ( where one of my friends live. )

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  • techpc

    Not that I've visited, but it sounds like she has a bit of a misguided idea of what Japan is like. If Japan was controlled by gangs or a mob, then I wouldn't want to go there either.

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    • BatterMilk

      She seems to be jumping to way too many conclusions. I'm sure she did little to no research about the place before coming to her decision.

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  • mouldiwarp

    Isn’t Japan very misogynistic and focused on appearance?

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    • RoseIsabella

      That's what I would be concerned about.

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    • BatterMilk

      Ya, but it depends on what areas you visit and who your hanging out with.

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      • 1WeirdGuy

        Like any other country

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        • BatterMilk

          OH NO! Not my Scandinavian countries!!!

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          • 1WeirdGuy

            I meant it just depends what area your in of any country. Always gonna have a bad area and a good one.

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  • ellnell

    I think Japan is overrated. Every single guy i've ever met my whole life who was even the tiniest bit into anime were practically obsessed with Japan.
    I wouldn't wanna go either + it's a longass flight and I hate flying and it wouldn't be worth it to me so I wouldn't go either. If my partner said to me he wanted to go i'd say "bring a friend then", in all honesty.

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    • I'm not into anime at all. However, I'm into gaming.

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      • RoyyRogers

        It is ran by the mob you goof

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    • BatterMilk

      Japan is a wonderful place to visit. Not just because of otaku culture, but because of the food, the people, and the various places you can visit that you will never see anywhere else.

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      • ellnell

        Sure but it's not on my list of places to visit. The culture doesn't appeal to me and i'm more interested in places with nice views over landscapes and I have no interest in people lol.

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