Is it normal that my fwb jumps at me and pulls my pants down?

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I was at my fuck buddy's house one day, laying down on his bed playing videogames by myself. At some time, he entered the room, and suddenly jumped on top of me and pulled my pants down quickly, exposing my butt. "Oh you're wearing a thong too", he commented. I was freaked out and immediately told him to stop. He then kissed me and I went along with it and didn't give it a second thought. But looking back now, I have a gut feeling that behavior might be a red flag. Can it be considered sexual abuse?

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  • sandnigga
    6 years ago | pl

    Hes just trying to initiate some sex. If you dont want it, then just tell him to stop.

    If your telling him to stop over and over and he continues anyway, THEN its rape

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  • sandnigga
    6 years ago | pl

    Your friends WITH BENEFITS, what do you expect?

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  • silkspector
    6 years ago | pl

    More like rape that type of behaviour is so wrong

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  • Cottontail
    6 years ago | pl

    The fact that you "went along with it" indicates that you are not currently able to provide adequate emotional protection and care for yourself by speaking up about what you want and how you want it.

    It's very difficult to judge a scenario by words only.

    I think that if you wonder whether something is a red flag, then it might not be for others, but perhaps it is for YOU.

    "You should expect it." is an answer that supports rape culture, because it implies that Prince consent was given once, or even repeatedly, that said consent is a license for all time and for all activities.

    Consent is NOT the absence of "No". Rather, consent is defined as "SAYING yes".

    It could be that "he likes it rough", and that he assumed this behavior would be okay with you. He might also have been trying out something new to him as well.

    I strongly suggest that You abs he read about "negotiation" within the BDSM community. Having carried out numerous "negotiation" conversations with prospective Dominants (I am a submissive) has made me stronger. Negotiating has made me much more comfortable talking about sex.

    Participating in BDSM as a submissive in a dungeon (BDSM club) in front of others has also made me much more comfortable with my imperfect body, which in turn has made me when more comfortable discussing sex.

    I admit, though, that I still have a lot of room for growth!

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  • mrmoomoo223
    6 years ago | pl

    well... like ur Friends With Benefits and u said he was ur fuck buddy so u should expect that by now

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  • Justmehere
    6 years ago | pl

    I agree..If you don't want it, TELL him to stop..Letting it go on this aggressive, when you really don't want it, will only tell im it's ok to basically jump on and rape you. Maybe let him know, look..I'm ok with the rough stuff sometimes, as long as we're already having sex, but, don't pull a sneak attack on me;

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  • Watchingyoo
    6 years ago | pl

    Is not.. its nice to ve taking by force somtimes.. enjoy it

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