Is it normal that my fiance rather get off to pornagraphy then make love to me

It's normal for every guy to look at porn. But if you are trying to pleasure him and be that person and he Denys you then it's not ok. I'd ask him why and what is going on with him. Sex life should be great when you are engaged.

There is nothing wrong with enjoying porn alone or with your partner, but when it negatively impacts or affects sex in your relationship, there is a problem.

I don't necessarily think your fiance is a jerk- I'm a licensed social worker and marriage/family therapist, and see problems like this quite often. He may very well have a pornography or sexual addiction that needs to be treated, or be depressed. YOU are not the problem, so do not blame yourself.

I would suggest that the two of you go to counseling together to discuss the rift that porn is causing in your relationship. If, after that, he is unwilling to change his behavior- I would seriously consider calling off the engagement and re-evaluating what you would be committing yourself to a lifetime of.

Best of luck to you. <3

Agree with Susan!

Um if he's rejecting you for porn i'd tell him to have fun Fu*king himself and go fing someone who will appreciate you!

My husband is always getting off to porn but if I offered myself he'd take it. I'd talk to him about this, maybe he needs fantasies to get off. Maybe you two can get together with him giving you yours while u both watch porn. But if he just refuses you then yes there is a problem and it will get a million times worse when your married for awhile.

I think that is pretty shitty! But it may boil down to a self confidence issue for him. Do things to boost his confidence...

It's a problem. Tell him that because he needs to realize this and address it.

Lol, cheat on him. Bring guys home and go screw them in your bed while he has fun beating his meat.

it's an addiction for him, hoe long have you two be living together?

DON'T tell him to go fuck himself. He's addicted, and has a problem. He needs help, so get him help!

i have no idea, personally the hand doesn't beat the real thing, thats pretty weird. maybe he has some sort o fetish that hes embarrassed about sharing with you, you might want to just ask about it.

Porn is sick. Dump him. Tell him to have fun with his hand for the rest of his life.

What's going on is this: you are only engaged - bail the hell out now while it is still early!!!

Is THIS immature, emotionally and sexually rejecting, porno-obsessed & incredibly self-absorbed man who YOU want to marry? A creep who uses pornography to abuse you by making you feel inadequate?

Are you NUTS - do you have no STANDARDS!?!?!

The guy already has you brainwashed to think something is wrong with you. WRONG!!! Everything is wrong with HIM! You just need to see it and park his porno-ass at the curb.

Save yourself from a lifetime of misery - it'll just get worse. Get out!

What a dirtbag! I had an ex like that. Notice I said "ex". It's not worth the pain and feeling torn down because some guy likes to choose porn over his woman. It's a real self confidence killer fir sure, and you deserve better than that. Dump his ass.

I think you should hide or throw the Internet and computer.(even things that make him 'pleasure' himself)

Get rid of the Internet!

Sorry about the typos. I meant HIM not JIM!!!

A lot of good advice. Maybe ay it light and casually tell Jim that when he's nearly done, to call for you to finish him off. Just an idea

If you see him watching it,cut him.