Is it normal that my boyfriend would rather have oral than sex?

My boyfriend told me he can't orgasm from sex. But he can orgasm through oral sex. He can have sex for 20 mins without orgasm, but if I blow him for 2 minutes, he will cum. Is that normal?

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68% Normal
Based on 105 votes (71 yes)
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  • charli.m

    And what about your pleasure?

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    • imanoddduck

      I think it is normal in on your age if you're young and you're getting really good at giving oral and you're actually really doing it I don't know I would do it for three or four hours till she would get too sore it would look like I had a rash on my face just in the wetness

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      • charli.m

        The fuck does any of that have to do with my comment?

        All I got from that was that you're a clueless virgin.

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  • PinkPiggy

    What are you complaining about if he can go 20 minutes? Some guys are done in 5.

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  • Drphillis

    I take it that you swallow his load afterwards? In my opinion that is actually all that he wants to see...you swallowing his load, to him that is the ultimate show of affection from a person that he needs to see!

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  • RoseIsabella

    Sounds convenient, at least if he returns the favor it is... convenient.

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    • JerryG0716

      Ill return the favor for you ;)

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      • McBean

        She doesn't need you. She has been blissfully happy ever since she moved in with her new boyfriend, the long tall Texan.

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        • charli.m

          You totally don't give yourself away every time you type. Well done.

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          • McBean

            If you're the OP and my comment bothers you, just delete it.

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            • charli.m

              I'm not the OP, idiot. I'm merely observing your embarrassing lavk of self awareness.

              Did you already forget you told me I never have sex? Why would you assume I was the OP, then?

              Not to mention that the OP identified herself well before you posted your inane comment.

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  • MR.mr

    different people have different needs.

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  • factcheck

    It's not exactly 'normal' but it happens. It's a condition called delayed ejaculation or inhibited ejaculation. Your boyfriend has a mild or moderate case...some are so severe that they can't orgasm in front of their partners, and some can't orgasm at all.

    Have you tried sex in different positions? He might just have to be in a certain position(whatever position he's in when you give him oral) to orgasm. Do you two use condoms? If he wears one during sex but not oral, that could certainly make a difference. Does he masturbate? He might just be so used to certain sensations, and oral mimics his hand better than intercourse does.

    If condoms are the issue, there's really nothing you can do until you're ready to have sex without condoms. But try different positions...ask him if there's anything that really turns him on - anything from talking dirty to watching porn to touching him a certain way or him touching you - that might set him over the edge. You should also try withholding from sex, and tell him not to masturbate, for awhile until he feels like he's ready to burst from the slightest contact. You could also try performing oral until his orgasm is imminent, and then switch to intercourse.

    That's a few common ways to resolve this condition...you and your boyfriend should research it together and maybe you can figure out what's causing it and how to treat it. It's certainly not something that can't be fixed.

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  • matches

    Some guys just really like a mouth

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  • peterrabbyt69

    You must be a good cocksucker and that makes you very special.

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    • Makayla1995

      appreciate that, but that doesn't help me much haha.

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  • swp6

    I'm thinking small cock or wet pussy or both. If I have a choice where to cum I love watching my cock cum in her mouth and the look on her face.

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  • nikkiclaire

    Are you blowing him before he fucks you. If so that's probably the issue.

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  • Analandy

    Do you enjoy giving him head?

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  • RufusMcDoofus

    You should probably keep looking. Preferences are one thing, but if they matter more than sex itself, that's a problem.

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  • randypete

    you must be a great cock sucker do you kiss after ?

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  • Ellenna

    I really can't see the problem if he can fuck you for 20 minutes and give you the pleasure you need and then you give him the pleasure he needs.

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    • nikkiclaire

      Maybe she likes it when he comes in her. I know I like that.

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  • Blade884

    Like Factcheck said in so many works, its all mental, and he probably just like oral better. he may have a hang up worrying you will get pregnant or something, and that kills his 'erection'.

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  • Angelandme

    Are you telling me this man who like any other man probably Jacks off with his hand, cannot cum while having a squatch clamped on him than his regular less pleasing hands?
    If his hands aren't rough he's lying and just wants to put his jizz where it turns him on.
    If his hands are rough it could be you're too wet to stimulate him as he's acustomed so the feelings of your squatch is foreign and strange in his mind and he may become confused and less aroused subconsciously.

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  • herpesfreesince93

    Imagine if you could somehow train your vagina to suck.

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  • Is he on any sort of pills(psychiatric pills like antidepressants and antipsychotics)? These pills make it harder to orgasm.

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    • Ellenna

      Irrelevant: OP made it clear he has no difficulty with orgasm from oral sex

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  • yesnomaybeso

    My boyfriend loves oral, but he knows I prefer sex, so we usually end up having sex. Even if he might take longer to cum!
    I know when he isn't feeling too hard or whatever, I do the things he likes to do. Maybe say something dirty. Or we change position to the ones that his dick goes deeper and so it makes me scream. it's not my favourite position to be honest, but he just gets so turned on by my moaning (Which are honest! it's sort of a small pain really, but good) and he ends up coming because he says he loves my face / moaning.

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    • nikkiclaire

      What position, i'd like to try it.

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      • yesnomaybeso

        mmm like hes sort of sitting up and im on top of him and he lifts me up with his hands and then lets go of me so i sort of fall down and it gets deep. or just doggy style

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  • dicka912

    Some have a great ability to suck cock better than others. You must be one of those lucky ones who suck cock better than most. You might try different positions and places where you have sex with your boyfriend. You need to try something different to get your bf really excited so he can cum during sex. Maybe you need to have some one watch you two having sex; that is a big turn-on for a lot of people.

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