Is it normal that my boyfriend will be turned on, but doesn't want sex

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My boyfriend and I have been dating for 7 months now and for about the last 3 months now hasn't really been interested in having sex, he says he just doesn't care about sex. I can get him turned on without a problem and he'll have an erection, but most of the time he doesn't actually want to have sex with me. We hang out just as much as ever (4 days a week), he's just as loving and attentive if not more so. He's always willing for me to give him a bj though. Is this normal or has he become less attracted to my body?

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  • Terence_the_viking
    10 years ago

    Thats selfish of him.

    It's ok to give him bj's but he gives you nothin in return.

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  • (s)aint
    10 years ago

    First of all, an erection doesn't equal him being horny per say.

    I know it's hard, a part of my mind still see's a boner and goes "OMGOSH SEEEEXYYYTIIIME COME HERE!"

    It sounds as if he's bored. It's up to him to tell you and up to you to try and spice it up for him.
    You could start off by giving him a BJ, then push him down on his back and make him so fucking horny that he HAS TO put it in you.

    As a person with VERY VERY high sex drive, I have to put effort into making my boyfriend horny as well because naturally he isn't that interested after two times already.

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  • quentari
    10 years ago

    so he'll only do sexual acts if it's him receiving a bj? sounds like a bit of a dick. I'd suggest cut off the bj's and see what happens, if he's still just as loving and doesn't ask for sex then I'd guess he just has a low sex drive. If he starts getting pissy or asking for head then I'd guess he's using you for easy bj's.

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    It doesn't sound quite right.

    I wouldn't want to guess what the thing is, but you should kinda watch him. Just see how he behaves with other girls, other people, see his reactions to things you do. See more from behaviour what the issue is rather than talk.

    Then maybe talk later.

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  • linchpin
    10 years ago

    He sounds incredibly lazy or incredibly unmotivated. Perhaps a lot of both.

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  • Anime7
    10 years ago

    Try switching up the sex routine. I mean if you guys are always doing missionary then can you really blame him; I mean he's the one doing all the work then. Try doing something different, see if his behavior changes then.

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    • AutumnEquinox
      10 years ago

      When we have sex it's hardly ever missionary style, though I try to do that all the time lol. He always turns me over onto my knees, stomach, or has me on top but leaning backwards. So I don't think the position is getting boring, however 95% of the time we are in his truck. We're both 20, but we're in college so we both live with our seperate parents and there is always someone home at one of the houses

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      • Anime7
        10 years ago

        pretty understandable. If that's the case I think your sex life sounds pretty healthy and awesome. I'm out of advice as to why he has this behavior.

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  • peterr
    10 years ago

    Get rid of the bastard. He sounds gay anyway, maybe he likes blowjobs because he wants to give one...

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