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My boyfriend doesn't last long at all!! His penis isn't that big, but it isn't small either. But he only lasts like 5 minutes at the most! He has gotten a little better at lasting longer, but he does not please me at all. I do love him dearly and care about him a lot. Even though he doesn't even listen to what I want in bed. Like he only cares what he wants.
Ha. You say "stay with him for some reason" like you have to search for a reason to be with this poor bastard, somebody who you say you love and care about. You can explain to him what you desire all you want but that's not going to make his dick bigger or give him more stamina, which seems to be what you want. I'd tell him straight up "i know you can't force yourself to last longer or have a go-go gadget dick, but you need to give me oral, try some stamina increasing shit, and at least try what i think would give me the the big "o". Was he your first fuck? Maybe you can't get off with penetration alone and are labeling this dude a lousy fuck. Have you tried rubbing your clit at the same time? I think if the dude isn't hung like a gerbil, and can lay down some rythmic humpage for at least 5 minutes then the problem is probably with you, not him. And don't cheat on the guy, that's what whores do. You're not a whore are you?
I've been with 2 other guys that seem to be way better than him. Yeah trust me I've tried that and it did help, but with him I couldn't feel pleasure for more than 2 minutes because his dick gets soft. And after he cums he just sleeps or something. I only put cheating there as a joke I'm no whore. Thanks for advice.
Did you orgasm with the other guys? Tell him to take some viagra or some shit. I wouldn't recommend breaking up with the guy over that if you truly love him, but issue seems to be more that he's not being considerate of your needs and trying to meet them rather than not being the best lover. He should at least give you oral or other ways to get you off. Explain to him how serious this issue is to you and if he just doesn't care or at least try, then i think breaking up would be justified because then it's not really about the sex anymore.
The truth is, he's the only guy that has made me cum, but it was usually me that would do it. He's attractive to me, and I really don't wanna leave him. The last time we talked about it he told me to find someone who could please me, which makes me wonder why he doesn't just TRY and please me.
I think (I don't know, I'm a girl, but I THINK) if you insult a guy in the bedroom area, they don't react like a girl would, which would be to try harder. Essentially you really, really insult them and scar them and make them nervous to even try at all. A guy will take anything negative as a harsh insult in this department!!
Instead of being in attack mode, try a different approach. Suggest things, just tell him what you need and forgo the insults. Tell him that if he feels like he's close, to let you know and pull out and you can do something else for a bit. I mean, you can't expect a guy to keep pumping away if he's close, and NOT cum. It's gonna happen. So switch it up. Try more foreplay, and YOU can control that. Don't let him in until you are ready!! Then take it slow, and put in some variety.
My 2 cents, I'm not a regular sex adviser!! I just have sex, that's all. Just sounds like maybe you both need to feel more able to communicate about this better. Be open about it.