Is it normal that my boyfriend is not interested in sex very much anymore?

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We have been together for almost 2.5 years now. We have lived together for about 6 months and about one month before I moved in he stopped initiating sex.... and here we are if we are lucky once per week. I initiate it every time and get very creative but have been shot down so many times. I am getting discouraged and just don't know what to do. Advice?
p.s: I am attractive and under 30

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Based on 18 votes (7 yes)
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  • misskittymeow
    8 years ago

    Im going through the same thing. My man is a little younger than me and suffers from a couple of mental disorders, if you will. Bottom line, I love him and I'm willing to wait and work with him, however, whenever. Quality over quantity any day for me! I have to admit, it has been a hard road to get where I'm at, but I'm glad I stuck it through with him and didn't do anything stupid.

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  • BobbyTheBear
    8 years ago

    I'll supply the dick an he can supply the money. Problem solved.

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  • Fish1973m
    8 years ago

    Tell him you need more sex, arrange date nights or send him dirty text msg's and pictures, tell him what you want him to do to you and if that still doesn't work think about moving on as you still have your best sex years ahead of you.

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  • thegypsysailor
    8 years ago

    It sounds as if you two aren't going to be compatible in the sex department.
    You need to have a frank, open discussion with him and if he doesn't seem to want things to change, then you have a big decision ahead.
    Are you willing to live the rest of your life feeling deprived of sex? If not, then no matter how much you care for this guy, you are either going to end up cheating on him, or ending this relationship.

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    • MissClaire
      8 years ago

      Well, I have spoken to him and he acknowledges the situation very honestly and is sorry that he is making me feel this way but assures me it is not me. He says he is very distracted in his mind with "life things" so I try to not take this personally (or make it about me) so that I can support him as much as possible. I understand (or think) that most men quantify the quality of their existence with their contribution to the world, so if they don't feel they are contributing significantly (or creating a legacy for lack of a better word) they can start to feel there is no meaning to their life. I believe this is where he is and I want to be supportive and help him find inspiration. I am just feeling so lonely in the process and it hurts the heart.

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      • thegypsysailor
        8 years ago

        It really sounds like an excuse to me, sorry.
        A big part of being in an ADULT relationship is considering your partner's needs as much or more than your own. His excuses sound evasive and selfish.
        If making one's mark on the world was such a sexual deterrent, then I think the rich and famous would have fewer children.
        I think it's great that you wish to support your guy and all, but it may very well be misplaced because I do not see that he is being honest with you at all.
        A couple in their late teens or early 20's should be screwing their brains out for the first 5 years or more of their relationship, or until the first child comes along.
        Good luck, but it might be time for you to consider your needs, since your feller doesn't seem much interested in them.

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  • Rick_Bawls
    8 years ago

    You are either not as pretty as you claim, or perhaps he is secretly gay?

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    • MissClaire
      8 years ago

      Well I get offers all the time from very attractive men. I understand that I might not be everyone's type, but I know where I stand in the line of "societal beauty standards". If it was just about sex I would have no issue, but it isn't just about sex for me - I need to respect the person. You sir, I am not interested in impressing and if you are ever trying to get with a level headed pretty girl - I would strongly suggest you approach people with more respect.

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  • JD777
    8 years ago

    Bummer. Best thing to do is the hardest - talk to him about it. Unsettling stress and depression is a pretty common reason younger guys lose interest. He's lucky that you care and still initiate things to keep a fire burning.

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    • MissClaire
      8 years ago

      Thank you for this. I will not give up that is for sure - I just don't want to talk about it too much as that could put extra pressure on him and that isn't fair either. I'll probably just have to swallow this and trust what he says - that it isnt about me as I said in a response above.

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  • 213
    8 years ago

    wow your man should feel lucky ,wish if i were in your man's shoes ,talk to him in my opinion sex is important in a relationship

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    • MissClaire
      8 years ago

      Thank you for the support. I have tried to speak with him (as indicated in a response to thegypsysailor above). I am just want to be sure he isn't just saying things to make me not worry I guess. How do I know he is being truthful with what he is saying?

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