Is it normal that my boyfriend doesn't want to have sex with me?

maybe your boyfriends a fag and he dosnt find you attractive becuase we wants you to have a big fat cock

if you were my girl id be like hell yeah girl im gonna go down on your for a while get u ready with my tongue and then when your wet enough id slde in.....but ur boy is deffin a faggot ditch the bitch xxx

I'd look elsewhere love. If he isn't interested when you're young and pert, he certainly isn't going tobe interested when the good stuff starts to sag.

Look this way darling...x

No- I get it. Recent BF was the same- and I KNOW he thinks I'm hot. It was him- he felt bad about himself, and I think maybe he wanted me to attack him, take him, not take no for an answer. [men seem to like sexually aggressive women- even the ones that say they don't like whores. Bull.] I couldn't do it not KNOWING if he really wanted it or me. VERY frustrating.

It was [in my opinion] too much sugar, horrible diet, led to no libido, no stamina. He claimed tired and stressed-- his life WAS very stressful for a bit, but it was more. Refused to talk about it, we just drifted- he deliberately kept me at arms length, got to where I just got too tired of trying. My self esteem is not low enough to chase after someone that "likes having me around" but is so un-affectionate.

If he refuses to talk about it, there are several other issues- SOY is one-- turns them into girls- just watch, keep asking, and finally, leave before committing too much of your life to him. You deserve more. I need to be touched, and kissed, and not feel so badly about myself. I didn't used to, do not now...

Perhaps he prefers wanking and keeps you for the cook & washing. Or your just a rubbish fuck. Dump the lazy shit and find a man who will ador you your body and frequent sexy sexy

he is either gay, or banging something else. Noone is that tired and specially at that age.. When i was 21 i was banging my gf 4-5 times a day, sometimes for so many hours that we literally did nothing else all day.

Maybe he is asexual but does not want to mention it (or maybe even admit it to himself) because ... well, having a sex drive is considered normal after all and you might feel like he did not care for you even though he does in everything but sex, because asexual does not have to mean aromantic.
Or maybe he does have a sex drive but a relative low one, not all people are the same.
Him being just tired could be true too, you know?

I agree with those people who said that you should talk with him.

torture him for fun until his ready for sex then break up with him >D

stress. some guys are just weird. end of story. give him time he will come around. trust me.

if he doesnt want i do!
maybe you just need to talk seriouslly about what you think.communication is the key girl
now IF he still dont weant to have sex w/you
dont waste your time with a guy like him
i really hope you get an answer from him and thing between the 2 of you get better
krat0s.

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Thanks, you guys :). I'll try to talk to him about it...otherwise...I don't know. Haha, matches, you are hilarious!

Well, the fluctuations in sexual need seem a little due to his work, his libido may be down because of all that he does, and of an evening, he's simply too tired to perform.

The fact that he says that you never try to initiate, you should talk to him about that.

It's not uncommon to have sex only occasionally, think of it this way, you wouldn't want to have sex too often, otherwise it might get boring.

yeah that may be deeper than any answer you'd get here :P But yeah my friend has that problem. wait, do you go to cal?

Lose thirty pounds.

finger his ass

21? 2x a month? Tell him to go see his Dr. You are right. His pole should be pointing north a lot more than that.

His defensiveness & inability to communicate about his low sex drive, even flipping it into being you as the problem, make me wonder how suitable a partner he will be over the long run.

You've found Mr Wrong. Go find Mr Right.

Dump that jerk ASAP!!

I would be a little worried I would ask him if he is getting it from someone else because that is a tell tale sign of not being interested I hope things work out for u good luck

.... I'm sorry to inform you... But I think your bf may be gay... Just saying... Like sex is amazing, I can't think of a guy who wouldn't want it...

It's not common but it's not too rare. If sex is that big of an issue for you find a new guy. Don't pressure him into doing something he doesn't want to though.

Just be like " look I really want to have sex because I fucking want to fuck you" don't take no for an answer if he gets mad than maybe he no longer feels the same for you or he might be gay or he is seeing someone else or he really might just be tired and would rather sleep than have sex

guys can have sex with one eye open. sounds to me that hes a bit controlling and wants it only on his terms. u need to bring it up to him if u havent

i have the same problem.

Try to spice it up a little1 is it just regular sex? try filling the room with candles use incense. play a sexual game,tie each other up and do kinky nasty naughty things to each other. mabey he is board with regular sex and needs more stimulation. try striking matches near his cock or melting candles wax on him.get some new kinky pretty outfit to wear for him. be kinky!! The kinkier the better!!!!