Is it normal that my boyfriend and i fantasize about his friend in bed?

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I have a pretty big crush on one of my boyfriend's friends, and I've told my boyfriend about it because we've been together a long time and we're comfortable and completely secure with each other.

I'm extremely sexually attracted to this person, and when my boyfriend and I have sex, a lot of the time we role play and he pretends to be his friend. I'll pretend he's his friend and I'll moan his friend's name, etc, or sometimes my boyfriend will just describe his friend to me and what he'd be doing to me if he were there. Sometimes we talk about it in the context of a threesome as well.

We're both perfectly fine with it and it gets both of us off (especially me). Is this normal?

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  • quentari
    10 years ago

    Have you discussed the possibility of a threesome with your boyfriend? It might be a viable thing.

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    • carbomb
      10 years ago

      We have and have both agreed on it with both another man and another woman. The opportunity never presents itself though. And this particular friend wouldn't be up for it.

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      • quentari
        10 years ago

        ah that sucks. Fantasy will have to do for now :)

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  • peterrabbyt
    10 years ago

    I would like to see your boyfriend and the other guy suck each other off.

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  • U.O.E.N.O.
    10 years ago

    That moment when you find out your boyfriend is having sex with his friend U.O.E.N.O. it.

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    I nearly deafened myself with my Ipod just now, hello there.

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  • alittlelost
    10 years ago

    I say go for it, but do so with an open mind and the knowledge that well over 75% of couples that have threesomes fail.

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  • (s)aint
    10 years ago

    I'm glad to hear that you and your BF seems to have a really good thing going here! You are open to him and he's secure enough to Roleplay with you.

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    • carbomb
      10 years ago

      Thank you! We are both very open about everything and secure in our relationship.

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  • Ipooprainbows
    10 years ago

    So I take it that ur bf is bi...?

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    • carbomb
      10 years ago

      He is. But he doesn't really find this friend attractive. He just likes the fantasies that we have during sex.

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      • Ipooprainbows
        10 years ago

        umm he is bi and fantasizes about him during sex with you. I would say he does find him attractive.

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  • IBMelissaG
    10 years ago

    If your BF is ok with it, then role play all you want. I had a BF that had a crush on one of my friends, and I let him say her name during sex once. I felt horrible, because he was thinking of her... and he came harder than he ever did before. If you and he have an understanding, then just do it. If it doesn't work out with the 2 of you, then maybe you'll have a chance with his friend.

    OH, Does his friend know about you having this crush?

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    • carbomb
      10 years ago

      He's perfectly fine with it. We do have the understanding so it works pretty well, but I guess it's still kind of strange. But since you've done something similar I feel a bit better about it. Sorry that it didn't work for you :(

      My boyfriend and I plan on being together long term so I have no intentions of ever getting with the friend, and I don't think he would ever see me like that anyway. For me, it's just a harmless attraction/crush.

      His friend doesn't know that I have a crush on him, thankfully. I would be mortified haha.

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      • IBMelissaG
        10 years ago

        You're a lucky girl. Have all the fun you can :-)

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        • carbomb
          10 years ago

          Yeah it's pretty awesome :)

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  • Runswithscissors
    10 years ago

    Does your boyfriend's friend also have a girlfriend?

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    • carbomb
      10 years ago

      Basically. He dated a girl for 2 years; they recently broke up but they still act like they're together.

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  • thegruffalo
    10 years ago

    If my girlfriend told me she had a crush on another guy... I'd be crushed! I definitely wouldn't pretend to BE him to get her off! I'd probably break up with her and suggest she tries her luck with him!

    Personally, I think he's only pretending to like role playing as his friend so that you have a way of getting off on it, without breaking up with him, and him losing you.

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    • carbomb
      10 years ago

      It definitely isn't for everyone, but we've had serious discussions about it and he is 100% fine with it and is even turned on by the idea. I've literally only met his friend a handful of times and think he's hot. I don't want to be with the guy or anything and would never leave my boyfriend for him or anyone else. I'm completely happy in our relationship.

      Thanks for your input though. I definitely didn't think many guys other than my boyfriend would be cool with something like this :P

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      • thegruffalo
        10 years ago

        Fair enough. You've got a guy that's pretty well suited to you in that aspect then :) Just another thing, make sure the friend never knows about this. I'd be really freaked out if I knew that was happening about me. Although, it'd be a sort of backhanded compliment haha

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        • carbomb
          10 years ago

          Yup :) Oh god, his friend will never find out, that would be horrible haha

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