Sorry for the length of this post. But I think you will find it worthwhile.
Yes, it's actually normal to fall for someone else; and a lot of people get turned on by BDSM and other similar activities, which is also normal.
The question is how do you navigate your marriage with your husband.
Marriage is about a lot more than sex (I've only met one person in my life who married just to have sex); however, many people tie sexual satisfaction and sexual expectations to their marriage.
The biggest component to marriage that I have found is Honesty. Most people can work out most any issue if there is honesty about the issue and effects. Although that often takes time, lots of discussion, and may require a counselor to assist and educate you.
Suggest that you discuss the event with him and how you enjoyed it. That you would like to try similar things with him. See how he reacts.
He may even give you permission and agree to at least a partially open marriage. Expect him to ask for his own freedoms.
Key if you open the marriage is to set some rules on how it will work (who, how often, where, extent, does each of you meet them, etc). You specifically need to come to agreement on what happens when there is a pregnancy and child, STDs, or even a UTI that gets transmitted from sexual contact - which can happen). Also discuss each of your personal fantasies.
There's a lot involved (it took me and my wife 3 months to learn about the issues and negotiate the rules and expectations for our open marriage: They have worked (and we are both free to complete our personal fantasies if we every find ourselves in a close match to that fantasy situation (in our cases that would be a rare event).
I suggest the book: "More than Two" by: Franklin Veaux and Eve Rickert. The book is sub titled "A practical guide to ethical polyamory."
IIN that I want to seduce my father-in-law?
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Sorry for the length of this post. But I think you will find it worthwhile.
Yes, it's actually normal to fall for someone else; and a lot of people get turned on by BDSM and other similar activities, which is also normal.
The question is how do you navigate your marriage with your husband.
Marriage is about a lot more than sex (I've only met one person in my life who married just to have sex); however, many people tie sexual satisfaction and sexual expectations to their marriage.
The biggest component to marriage that I have found is Honesty. Most people can work out most any issue if there is honesty about the issue and effects. Although that often takes time, lots of discussion, and may require a counselor to assist and educate you.
Suggest that you discuss the event with him and how you enjoyed it. That you would like to try similar things with him. See how he reacts.
He may even give you permission and agree to at least a partially open marriage. Expect him to ask for his own freedoms.
Key if you open the marriage is to set some rules on how it will work (who, how often, where, extent, does each of you meet them, etc). You specifically need to come to agreement on what happens when there is a pregnancy and child, STDs, or even a UTI that gets transmitted from sexual contact - which can happen). Also discuss each of your personal fantasies.
There's a lot involved (it took me and my wife 3 months to learn about the issues and negotiate the rules and expectations for our open marriage: They have worked (and we are both free to complete our personal fantasies if we every find ourselves in a close match to that fantasy situation (in our cases that would be a rare event).
I suggest the book: "More than Two" by: Franklin Veaux and Eve Rickert. The book is sub titled "A practical guide to ethical polyamory."
I wish you well with this...