Is it normal that i want to leave my friend with benefits for an older woman?

It's like poor little pinnochio.

All he ever wanted was a relationship with no strings attached.

Milfs are the best

Ok but here's the 'problem'.

What happens when you get bored with this new chick (and you will)?

Then it's the next chick, rinse and repeat.

After awhile you'll probably develop a pattern that will destroy your future relationship with a girl you actually want to keep.

Not only will you probably never trust girls (my problem) because now you know they're all basically sluts but you'll also probably turn into a chronic cheater because no girl is 'exciting' enough for you.

ALL relationships get boring if you're with the person long enough.
ALL relationships have periods where both people would rather be screwing someone else.

I totally get where you're coming from but developing habits/patterns like this are really dangerous.

It's also one of the reasons why casual sex can ruin your life/serious relationships.

Girls do the same thing, jump from guy to guy just because they get bored and then boom, too late they cheat on whoever they're with and ruin their lives because they've developed that habit and the emotional justification to support it. Plus it's so easy to cheat.

Think about young girls that get molested at a young age. They unknowingly or knowingly carry that sexual / emotional baggage with them 'forever' and that affects all of their relationships.

Therapies and techniques can fix these things but usually people don't 'get help'.

yeah the whole point of a FWB is that it's not a lock-in contract. Just say "yeah I don't really want the sex part of our friendship any more, you're still a great friend!" etc (just maybe don't say "i found a better FWB" lol)

**unzips pants**

Of course it's normal. Sounds like you're growing up and realizing empty sex with someone you don't really care about or you're not in love with is half assed and the more do it with her the more boring it is.

The new older girl is more exciting mostly cause she's new and she's doing it a different way. Meaning she's taking her time to seduce you and warm you up. After a while of boning her if you don't 'fall in love' with her you'll start to get bored with her also.

That's called life.

This is why so many guys and girls keep hooking up with someone new because someone new is a new toy to play with and it's much more sexually exciting fucking someone new than fucking someone you've done a million times but then someone 'new' becomes someone 'boring'.

Then when you really get bored of screwing random unimportant people you get married, lol.

Next after about 5 years of being married to the same person you reach a whole new level of boring that you didn't even know existed so you and/or your wife cheat on each other, etc.

Welcome to the game we call life.

Anyway the only red flag here is, is this older girl married?
Cause if so you shouldn't be sneaking around screwing her then. You could really ruin and destroy her whole family and you've already mentioned she has kids. Don't ruin the kids life even if their mother is a slut. Just find some single girl to screw.

Btw, I'm curious. You're fine having this older girl get your rocks off but did you even think about if she's boning 10 other guys you don't know about?

Some horny MILF isn't only going to screw one guy. She's been there done that and that's how she got the kid but it didn't work out - even if she may be still married.

How does that make you feel if you found out she's screwing 4 other dudes?

Sure. Why not go for it?

I'm not even looking for anything serious with this hot 30 something year old milf. I just want her to be my new fwb and that's it. The last thing I want is to date her or take care of a kid that's not even mine. As for the fwb I'm currently with, I'd still like to be friends with her but just cut out the sex with her because the sex has been feeling so half-assed with her no matter how much I communicate to her about what I want in bed.

Just be honest. Tell her that you want to continue to be friends but you want to cut out the sex. That is what you are obligated to tell her. As far as a friend goes...I wouldn't bring up your new "thing" until perhaps it progresses...There's no reason to hurt her feelings for someone that you're not in a romantic relationship. If it blossoms into that then at some point you're likely going to want to at least let her know that you're seeing someone....but that's not necessary up front as you're are friends with benefits which kind of eliminates the needs for explanations.

I think the best approach may be that you're interested in dating someone and to be fair to that relationship you don't think its right to continue to have sex with her. It will spare her feelings but also get the point across you don't want to have sex.

Have you tried talking to her about this? That you want to take things a little slower? Sex isn't just some magical thing that all comes together on its own. Sometimes you have to communicate a little to get it right.

yes.

I personally haven't gone the friends with benefits route with anyone yet but if you feel you want to do it with someone else, why not? Though "leave" is an odd term considering its not like your current "FWB" and you are dating unless you're saying you want to actually go out with this lady. Unless you're saying you just want this new lady as your new FWB, and then...BAH, things had to end at some point anyway whenever one of you found someone serious so I say go for whatever you'd like.