Is it normal that i want my teacher to come to a councilor with me

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Ok so I just started college recently.
I have recently formed a good bond with this teacher.
She’s nice understanding, funny and just gets me!
I don’t have a good relationship with my mother and father and have been in foster care all my life. I’m 19 now though but still get attached to any bit of care someone gives me.
I live with a roommate and she’s horrible.
She’s bossy, calls me names, gives dirty looks, talks bad about me on the phone and just isn’t a nice person in my opinion.
That’s been stressing me out a lot and recently I’ve just been ignoring her as I can’t take it anymore.
I’ve started to cut because of it and stuff going on in my family situation too.
I can’t stop cutting and my friends know and telling me to get help.
I wanted to tell my teacher as she’s the only adult figure I really have that I trust.
I’m just not sure weather to let her find out herself or that I should tell her, but I’m scared if I tell her she’ll think it’s for attention when it’s not I’m genuinely depressed.
I wanted to ask her to come to a counselor with me as I don’t like them or trust them very much.
( from past experiences )
I just don’t know how to ask her and tell her,
I’m self harming without her talking anyone I’m thinking cause I’m an adult it can be confidential but I’m not to sure.
Is it weird I like her a mother also I want her to adopt me but don’t know how to ask her she has a kid and husband.
But I know I’m 19 but she could adult adopt me when an adult adopts an adult I found it on the internet. Help!
Please don’t comment if you can’t help this is the only place I feel I can talk about my problems thanks.

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  • LornaMae
    4 years ago

    That request sounds so strange. I think you should do two things immediately, first get a new roommate, then just talk to your teacher about what has been going on with you and ask her for advice, like you did us, not adoption.

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    • Ilovefood
      4 years ago

      Thankyou will do 😀

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  • MrToxic
    4 years ago

    People who have a strained relationship with their parents/family often have dependency issues in their later years. Adding the fact that your current housing includes a roommate that relentlessly picks on you will certainly add a negative weight to your mental health. It's good you've got a positive relationship with your teacher as well as having friends! It's important to keep in mind though that teachers are restricted from getting too friendly with their students. You don't have to distance yourself from them but I would caution you that they could risk losing their job. It's a fine line. Asking them to adopt you on top of that could potentially strain your relationship between you and your teacher. I'd suggest keeping things on a friendly, almost neighbour-like basis. Asking them to go with you for support when speaking to a Counselor is certainly doable though!

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  • FromTheSouthWeirdMan
    4 years ago

    I don't think you should ask her to adopt you being 19. That's gonna make her want to push you away a bit. At 19 it's time to leave the nest egg. I suggest you find another roommate.

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  • RoseIsabella
    4 years ago

    Are you living in the dorms? If you're living in the dorms you need to see about moving out, and away from this chick.

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    • Ilovefood
      4 years ago

      No in a flat HSE

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