Is it normal that i think that chivalry is dead, women killed it!

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I heard that line the other day and it struck me as extremely accurate. My whole life I've tried my best to live by good principle and strong morals, and treat women with great caring and kindness. This is especially true with women I've had feelings for over the years. To illustrate what I mean a little clearer, I've never been the type of guy to pressure a girl into any form of sexual intimacy. Not saying they are not aware that I would go there, but I try to have the maximum amount of respect in this regard. Lately however I've really lost hope in pursuing girls with this frame of mind. Every time I do it never ends up going anywhere and I just get labeled with the classic "oh (insert name here) is such a good/kind/caring/nice/whatever guy. He's a great friend" when I really don't want to be just friends! It's almost like acting like a respectful/chivalrous/good guy is not taken seriously by girls my age (I'm 20 btw). I can see why so many guys are jerks or assholes to girls, because at least compared to my plan of action they are at least getting laid. So, is it normal that I feel like this? That I feel that chivalry is dead because women killed it?!? And wtf do I do?!

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago | pl

    A knight doesn't date a tavern wench. Save your chivalry for respectable women who appreciate it.

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  • Oli
    12 years ago

    No. Keep being nice. You will find a girl who will like you for it.

    You have to not convert to the stereotype of "all men are pigs and assholes who want sex".

    Seriously, after dating someone exactly like the stereotype and now dating someone who is sweet and caring, I realize that all guys aren't assholes, and I deserve to be treated fairly.

    The world needs more people like you.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    Chivalry aint dead a long as I'm alive..

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  • Shackleford96
    12 years ago

    We are definitely a dying breed my friend.

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  • Solophonic
    12 years ago

    You can be chivalrous and still ask for more in bed. Be confident, if they say no then ask again, but if they keep saying no just drop it. Women want a guy who isn't afraid to ask for what he wants, not a shy person acting under the guise of respect and chivalry. Leave your comfort zone once in a while and see what happens.

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  • 41ph4m413
    12 years ago

    It's not because you're nice, its because you're a whiny wuss. That or your ugly

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  • ManoMan18
    7 years ago

    Don't give up your morals because of women... Far too many people turn into monsters because they thought morals alone could get them anything, but I plead you to rethink this, because you will lose a lot of self-respect and respect from others, and also possibly ruin your life in some aspects.

    If you want a woman, you need to show feelings for them... You should be a nice person AND show her you are interested in her, and you need to make sure the woman you want isn't a manipulator(which will be hard if you let your emotions cloud your judgement too much), but also you need to know that she is interested in you too...

    It isn't too late, just keep trying... God Bless.

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  • kingsleycrowne
    11 years ago

    haha I saw two older women the other day who hailed a cab from the other side of the road, which pulled up next to me. As they were running across the road I opened the doors for them to get in. They were immediately like "OH, ARE YOU GOING TO TAKE THIS CAB?!? WE HAILED IT!"
    I explained I was only opening the door for them and their demeanour changed to surprise. They climbed in and were clearly flattered. I think they still appreciate it, maybe even more, cos it's not as common.

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    Do you have to get 'laid'? You will find a girl who is worth the wait.

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  • MissDethstar
    12 years ago

    Don't worry ! You're feeling is normal, my guy friends complain about this too.
    It's true that some girl go with the handsome jerk but they WILL get tired of it . One day they will want a good/nice/caring men, it might take them time to realize it but no ones want to be hurt forever. It happened to me.
    My first love was an awful jerk and the biggest liar i have ever met, i never cried so much in my life. It took me time but i left him and now i am dating the guy who used to be my best friend and we are very happy :)
    Don't change ! women still love the good guys.

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  • plainsight90
    12 years ago

    I always appreciate a respectful guy :)

    So keep being you...but at the same time, don't be a door mat. If they're acting like dumb tricks, on to the next!

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  • tori
    12 years ago

    Don't change! I love to have my door opened for me. I always say thank you. There are women out there who do appreciate it.

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  • ICeicebaby7492
    12 years ago

    YOur right to feel this way cuz women seem to demand a lot from men and I could c y men give up.......but u don't give up cuz u sound like an amazing guy i'd date

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    Dude, I absolutely LOVE gentlemen/chivalrous guys. There should be more of 'em in the world. Props to you for that! Keep it up! ;)

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