Is it normal that i still think of a crush 6 years later?

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7 years ago, this girl came to the place that I work at. Me and her fell deeply in love, she would fit in the "cute blonde" category (except she was really smart) and we dated a little bit. And we had so much in common too, and ones weakness was the others strength. So that worked out fine for a year. But one day she said she was moving, and I would have to move too if I wanted to keep the relationship. I said no, because I have many friends in my little town, who I've known longer and that need me and I need them sometimes and I couldn't let them down because to this very day they haven't let me down. We haven't spoke since, despite my many Facebook searches. Is it normal, and did I do the right thing, or did I "act a fool"?

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  • CountessDouche
    9 years ago | pl

    Go find her then- you have her former address, full name- it's enough info to locate someone. That way you won't have to wonder about things, and you can get some closure if she's moved on. Just try not to stalk her if she's not interested.

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  • RoseIsabella
    9 years ago | pl

    That is a question to which only you know the answer, my dear.

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  • thegypsysailor
    9 years ago | pl

    I can't say you did or did not do the right thing, but I would have been outa there faster than the Flash chasing a bad guy.
    My friends would have understood and cheered me on, contributing whatever they could to facilitate my happiness. Sorry, I'm pretty sure that wasn't what you wanted to hear.

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    • Parky_Parker
      9 years ago | pl

      Pretty much what I was thinking. If there was potential that she was "the one," it would've been worth it to move with her. Only you know what's right for you, though.

      As much as I care for my friends, I would support them in moving away with their significant other if that's what makes them happy.

      Best of luck!

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  • kiss.calypso
    9 years ago | pl

    Sorry your kidding right? If she was worth following why didn't u go? If your friends don't support you, their not really your friends. That was a once in a life chance with her, forget trying to find her, you blew it. And now your going to wonder forever "what if" bc u didn't even try. U could of always gone home. I think u need those friends more then they need you....

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    • derpyderp
      9 years ago | pl

      I agree but its always easy to look back & see what you should have done, not always so easy to take that step at the time.

      I'm assuming going with her would have meant leaving behind his job, friends, family & everything else he had except for her. Obviously worth it for the right person but not a decision to take lightly.

      OP, it sucks but I think you are likely to finish up disappointed regardless of what happens now.
      You either never find her & spend the rest of your life wondering what might have been, or you do come across her & she's either changed, not what you remembered or has moved on.
      7 years is a long time...

      I'm a bit of a romantic so I honestly hope you do find her & everything works out for you but I'm also a realist & think the chances are slim. Good luck

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  • gingerbread11
    9 years ago | pl

    Just go find her.

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