Is it normal that i still like my dad?

70% Normal
9 Comments

I have a horrible relationship with my dad. he cheated on my mother for 15 years, he beat me, he has a girlfriend 27 years younger than him, and when i told him that i couldnt see him while he saw his younger girlfriend, he chose her over me. he is a pervert, and i absolutely hate him as a person. but somewhere in the midst of all that, i still love him, miss him and want to see him. i recently went away with him on holiday just to see family, and he was perfectly nice. he is good at pretending nothing has happened. i just dont know if i can accept him after all thats happened. i havent seen him for a while. my brothers still see him and love him. he has done terrible things to the whole family. he wrecked it. do i still see him? and is it normal that i still care for him?

Is It Normal?
Help us keep this site organized and clean. Thanks!
[ Report Post ]
Comments ( 9 ) Sort: best | oldest
  • joybird
    12 years ago | pl

    You may not like him as a person but as your dad, you still love him. I think it's good that you hold no resentment or bitterness, yet you know his real personality. With someone like this, you either accept them 'warts and all' or stay away from them completely.

    See him while he's still being decent towards you but don't hang around to be a victim if he changes.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    Report
    2
    2
  • colourmoon
    12 years ago | pl

    no matter what he did he still stays your father. might be that he hurt you and your family, but you can't chose if you want to hate him for that. so your totally normal, don't worry.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    Report
    1
    1
  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago | pl

    He's family.Of course you'll like him.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    Report
    0
    0
  • NikkiLee
    12 years ago | pl

    I am in a very similar situation, although I no longer speak to or see my Dad. It has been 7 long years. I am 21. He has done terrible things to me and the rest of my family. I don't think I would ever like to see or speak to him again, but deep down he is my father and I do care about him. Your not alone.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    Report
    0
    0
  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago | pl

    This is normal. My dad beyond belief things to my family and I. I haven't talked to him in years. I hate him for doing what he did. But he's my father, I wish that we could over come things. I miss him and think of him every day, wondering if a day will come that he will mature up and fix what happened. Good luck Hun, I would try and fix things with him, talk to him about it l.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    Report
    0
    0
  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago | pl

    you like yr dad but can name his faults, you sound well adjusted to me

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    Report
    0
    0
  • iLuvTimCurry
    12 years ago | pl

    Of course ts normal! Its just your instincts. Im glad ou see through him but dont hate him.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    Report
    0
    0
      -
    • koolkeepn
      12 years ago | pl

      how can you hat a person who created you? did he do you wrong? he is a person. If you say he always makes mistakes only says you are one of them...

      Comment Hidden ( show )
      Report
      0
      0
  • sleepingbeauty
    12 years ago | pl

    Its normal to still love your dad, the issues you have are mostly about you, not him.

    The fact that your dad had an affair for 15 years is about his relationship with your mother, its not about you or how much he loves you or not. You've just taken it personally as many children do.

    I don't know about him beating you, or how bad that was so I can't comment.

    As for going out with someone 27 years younger, its nothing to do with you as long as she is legal. And making your dad 'choose' between you or his girlfriend was an awful thing for you to do. I may have done the same as him on principle to teach that you can't dictate who is 'allowed' to have a relationship with your dad.

    If you try being a bit more accepting of yours and your dads faults, you may be able to mend bridges here.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    Report
    0
    0