Is it normal that i really like the idea of sex but it is hard for me to enjoy?

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So I have a few friends with benefits and I love to have sex, but it is very difficult for me to cum. Like, I make the girls I'm with self-conscious because I'll choke them out (I absolutely require kinky sex), screw for half an hour, hard, and still not cum (great workout by the way). I'm not trolling, I actually feel like a total douche who probably subconsciously hates everyone and thus cannot cum unless I (shamed to admit it) think about other girls than the ones I'm screwing (while also having to finish myself off and then letting it out in their mouths, and I don't finish while they watch that just seems weird). I guess I'm in to submission (though I like the idea of being dominated, I wouldn't want it in a serious relationship). So, do I just need to get myself a giant fleshlight or something because it's harder with someone else than with just myself, or am I just narcissistic?

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  • RoseIsabella
    8 years ago

    Go choke yourself out!

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    • jcline459
      8 years ago

      Wow, um if that's supposed to be because you think I'm being a brutal jerk then I'll have you know that she likes it. But you know, whatever. And actually I kinda like it too so not that insulting actually.

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  • [Old Memory]
    8 years ago

    I like getting sex over with as quickly as possible.

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    • jcline459
      8 years ago

      I like the idea but yeah actual sex is kind of disgusting. Maybe that just means I need to find more meaningful sex in my life?

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    • wistfulmaiden
      8 years ago

      Me too especially when I'm chocked unconscious!

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  • green_boogers
    8 years ago

    You're an animal. Get dominated by a girl probing your butt with a strap on. It will help your posture.

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  • Nokiot9
    8 years ago

    Ur into what ur into. It sounds like a domination thing to me. Try being submissive and let her tie u up. If that's not ur deal maybe find a sexual partner that understands the... Intricacies of ur sexual needs. Because the "it it me?" Situation is always best avoided. Catering to a women's insecurities is trying at the best of times, I don't wanna be guilted into it right after handing out orgasms like they're candy.

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  • [Old Memory]
    8 years ago

    I know that feel all too well. It gets pretty annoying, doesn't it?

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  • thegypsysailor
    8 years ago

    If you make sex all about cumming, then you are just masturbating with another person. You didn't mention any concern for your partner's pleasure; only your own.
    I don't see many women wanting a repeat performance with such a selfish fucker (no way in hell I would call you a lover).

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    • jcline459
      8 years ago

      She likes it. Actually she has multiple orgasms but I don't have any usually. She's a friend of mine, more or less, so I don't not care about her. And yeah, I know I'm selfish. I'm not hiding from it.

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