Is it normal that i need to be inlove constantly?

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I had few boyfriends and I'm in long term relationship now but I feel need for the feeling of being in love. I thought it'll go away but.. it's not. I'm looking for other people to fell inlove. Not leave my boyfriend but just fell inlove and feel that feeling again. I feel empty and I'm looking for someone who would fill that hole.
Is it normal? I feel like my heart is one hole and when someone give me love it's gonna be there for a while but then it will just leak through or something and left me empty again. I feel broken...or is it normal? And people just ignore it?...how?

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  • Moe_Moe_Kyun
    4 years ago

    It seems like your just a lonely/sad person all on your own.

    Maybe(without being fully aware of it) you're more interested in the idea of BEING loved/ GETTING love, rather than giving your love to someone you actually genuinely care for and can see yourself spending your life with

    You want to BE loved to fill some empty void in you. But you shouldn't be entering relationships JUST to fill some empty void in yourself because you'll still end up feeling unhappy and empty.

    No one can be glued to your side every hour of the day. And during those hours when they're not there, you'll still feel lonely because you're RELYING on SOMEONE ELSE to love you and fulfill you because YOU haven't learned to love and fulfill YOURSELF

    It's not just you who ends up unhappy it's can be the other person too

    They'll only be there for the purpose to make you not feel empty for a few hours and then once they're away they'll have to worry about you going elsewhere behind their back just because they had to go to work, stopped texting because they fell asleep, had to leave out of town to take care of a family member or attend a family members funeral, or whatever the case may be

    Plus in those kind of relationships it often becomes a thing where the other person is always feeling guilted into staying by your side

    I've seen this a lot where people have these kind of relationships where the person who is empty usually says things like "if you do/don't do this, then I'll feel this", "if you leave me I'll be miserable and won't know how to live without you", or "don't break up with me. If I'm lonely again I'll kill myself"

    Who wants to be guilted into entering and/or staying in a relationship? No one

    The problem often lies with the empty person

    You need to find you're OWN happiness and fulfill YOURSELF, BEFORE entering a relationship

    A relationship isn't there for the sake of having someone put all the work into putting a bandaid over your cut that you don't even want to take the time to clean out before letting them cover it up with a bandaid... Cuts don't heal like that

    What happens in that scenario? The cut just gets infected, it never heals, comes back worse, and/or you remain in pain whenever they're not there to keep the bandaid from falling off

    It seems your boyfriends are just bandaids for bigger issues you have going on WITH YOURSELF that you don't want to adress or work on yourself

    It seems you want some magical unicorn person to swoop in and make you feel whole, but a person can only do so much

    You gotta meet them halfway and if you're not willing to put in the work yourself, to be able to meet them halfway on the bridge then the bridge will eventually crumble apart and you'll remain feeling lonely and be stranded on your side of the bridge with no one

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    • SweetElis
      4 years ago

      I understand and I agree with you. But I also feel like I sometimes do too much to show love and I don't see it from the other side. Maybe not because they don't love me but rather they showed me all they have and can't give more so then I'm looking for more else where. And that's not good and that's my bad.
      And yeah I think I should work on selflove or something like that because I constatly need to be around people and when I'm alone I can't do anything. I mean when I'm alone I just waste my time. I watch YT or play games just to waste that time to be with my bf or someone. I can't really enjoy being alone. Maybe it's Also because when I was a kid I was almost always alone at home and when my mum come back from work she was mean because she was stressed and angry from work.
      The thing is that I don't know how to fix myself. I kinda know back in my mind I should do something but I'm helpless.

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  • FromTheSouthWeirdMan
    4 years ago

    You cant go into relationships with your expectations so high. Gotta have low expectations if u want it to last lol

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