Is it normal that i'm obsessed with porn but i'm a 34-year old virgin?

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I still live at home with my parents, I don't like people, I'm desperate for a girlfriend, I watch the kinkiest porn I can find (and enjoy it), but the idea of speaking/interacting with humans (especially women) in real life terrifies me to the point that I just stay at home locked in my room and do nothing.

I'm even afraid of going to a prostitute (they're legal here).

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Based on 66 votes (25 yes)
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  • [Old Memory]
    9 years ago | pl

    Sounds like you have bad social anxiety keeping you from experiencing life. You're going to have to work on your issues to get what you want. I suggest getting out as much as possible, even if it's for a little bit. Eventually you should feel more comfortable with people.

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    • 934875
      9 years ago

      Just out of curiosity, what would you advise to someone who has been doing that for 5 years and still has the same level of anxiety? Practice doesn't always make perfect it seems.

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      • [Old Memory]
        9 years ago

        I just noticed your comment even though this was months ago.
        I don't have social anxiety but I do have difficulty knowing how to relate and understand other peoples emotions which can cause communication problems.
        I would recommend doing things anyways if you can. Most things are simpler when you arent afarid of failure because the only true failure is to not try.

        I can give you advice on making female friends.
        Talk to girls you have similar interests and be their friends the same way you are with male friends. forget about sex and be thankful to spend time with female friends, enjoy your time regardless if you have sex and just forget about sex.
        How? A good solution is regular masturbation. When I go out, I jack off first, so that sex isn't even on my mind. Stop caring if you get laid that night.
        When you get your mind off sex you can focus on life. You can develop meaningful relationships with people that aren't based on superficial sexual attraction.
        Once you establish friendships you can ask out girls which sometimes leads to sex, but dont feel entitled to it.

        I will say I am not an expert at dating or sex but I do know how to make friends. If all you want is sex my advice may be useless and I would have no idea what to advice.

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    • mountain-man82
      9 years ago

      I agree with bugsforbreakfast. I couldnt have said it any better.

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  • handsignals
    9 years ago

    I don't remember posting this??? WTF!

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    • disthing
      9 years ago

      Alcohol will do that to you.

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  • poon_jabber
    9 years ago

    Normal to watch a lot of porn, not normal being a 34 yr old virgin.

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    • peaceandlovebro
      9 years ago

      I don't think there's an age limit on losing your virginity.

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      • poon_jabber
        9 years ago

        being normal is different than having an age limit

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    • SEWnanist23
      9 years ago

      I'm 38 now Myself and I hauled around with an undipped Pee-Wee till I was 26 and admitted to My Rosy Palming action with Playboy to people all the time. The first time admiting that is a sobering experienced and it gets better. More guys need to admit they like rubbing it out.

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  • [Old Memory]
    9 years ago

    This seems like one of those "serious troll posts" probably written by a girl to see the kind of responses she will get. If this is a real post...then sorry I have no input or advice.

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    • Tommythecat.
      9 years ago

      Other than kill the hookers awwww yeahhhhh!

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    • 934875
      9 years ago

      Not a troll post, really more of a confirming post. I wondered whether I was as bad off as I thought.

      Thanks for reading.

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    • perfectxsilence
      9 years ago

      I agree

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  • richmanjoe
    9 years ago

    Hire an escort. Find one who will come to you.

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  • SEWnanist23
    9 years ago

    When I was 21 and I've seen Girls (ages 18 - 24) Usually When they've given Me a devious sensuous Smile, My gut instinct told Me these Girls weren't virgins, they've had sex with many guys since the day but they weren't going to sleep with Me either as it were a way of rubbing it in that I rub it out!

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  • JHWolfman
    9 years ago

    It is simple, to overcome you social anxity start small. You can start by using a mirrior or an image of a female (shoulders and up) to try to get used to it. Then after you feel practiced enough go to a video chat site, but block the image of the girl.

    Preferably explain that you wish to overcome your social anxity but you mist first learn to talk to women she will understand.

    Now the next step is a huge jump but face to face interactions are next, a convention is a great starting place because everyone there will have the same interest.

    Don't be afraid to break the ice, you can releive any akward tention by asking about herself or commenting on what ever fandom she is in (if any)

    But most important don't confuse passion for perversion. Just because a chick is hot doesn't mean she is right for you, the only reason they say nice guys finish last is because the person they were dating share little common ground.

    Best of luck man.

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  • DubstepismyMJ
    9 years ago

    Do you like anime? If you do i highly suggest this one called "welcome to NHK".

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  • RoseIsabella
    9 years ago

    That pornography isn't helping you.

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  • thegypsysailor
    9 years ago

    Yeah, like there's gonna be a long line of girls interested in a 34 year old virgin, who still lives with his folks. What's the word for a male "old maid"?

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    • 934875
      9 years ago

      Pathetic/shameful is what I usually rely on.

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    • iEatZombies_
      9 years ago

      As much as people are upset about what you said, which is insensitive, it's fairly accurate.
      OP I wouldn't advise you openly tell people you live with your parents or that you're a virgin. That's not to say you should hide it, just be sure you wait til you get to know people and trust them.
      As for how to talk to people, as bugs said, go outside, put yourself in the presence of people. Also, try conversing with people online. You'll slowly but surely get into the groove of things, even if you never really become very social. You'll at least be able to talk to people.

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      • thegypsysailor
        9 years ago

        Actually, I was responding in this vein;
        "IoncecamesohardIdied
        This seems like one of those "serious troll posts" probably written by a girl to see the kind of responses she will get.", not as if it was a serious post.
        If this is indeed a serious post, then I seriously doubt that anything we have to offer as advice could really motivate someone so set in his ways.

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  • SEWnanist23
    9 years ago

    There's something wrong about living with the parents part but hauling the undipped Pee-wee for years and a long term affair with jacking the Pee-Wee to Porn is Normal in My Eyes. In the Bible Adam & Eve weren't the only format of Sexuality. There was a Man named Onan who had a Brother who died. He was told He had to marry His widow and Pork Her but He refused because He was in a relationship with His Rosy dePalma. He insisted in doing So and the community He lived in Humiliated Him severely for playing with Himself and kicked Him out soon after. We live in the 2000's people! Wake Up! There is a half a world of Gay people that have come out of the closet and it is hard to believe that being a peter beater(vaginally experienced or NOT) is still a Taboo! I always tell people that I'm a peter beater. I wish I can play with it all day but it likes to sleep a bit. Rock Out with Your Cock Out!

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