Is it normal that i'm jealous of people with normal lives?

So.. I come from a very dysfunctional family. There's drugs, mental illnesses, and everyone is just straight up mean to each other for no good reason.

I always envy people who have normal lives. That get along great with their family, where there's relatively no issues of any kind. Sometimes my envy even turns into anger.

Is that normal?

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  • nikkiclaire

    It is normal to be jealous of ideals but you never know what goes on behind closed doors. My family is a complete trainwreck and I long for a normal one, but it aint going to happen so I am building my own.

    Best of luck to you. I completely disowned my dysfunctional family because there was no hope for them or me if we continued. It's a tough choice but I am glad I made it.

    Whatever you decide, put your own needs first.

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  • LittleEarth

    It is normal.

    But it is useless.

    Staying in those feelings just deprives you of a part of yourself. They can be used like fuel to go somewhere better. To make your life better.

    People who have a nice happy life...well, theyre lucky. But i remember a friend who had the perfect life, perfect happy family, opportunities, and still, she was unhappy, saying how boring her life was.

    But the good side of it, is that through everything bad, you must have learned a lot.

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  • Ellenna

    You're not bound for ever by what you've experienced in your disfunctional family. It's normal to envy others you see as better off than you are, but it's also pointless. It'd be better to focus on creating your own normal life, whatever that word means for you.

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  • RoseIsabella

    Nobody is perfect. Even the people who look perfect aren't perfect, and sometimes the ones who look the most perfect are the least perfect.

    My mother and sister both think they are perfect, but they're actually gaslighting queens.

    Try to lead the most healthy and functional life that you can, and spend less time around your family if necessary. Don't hate other people who aren't all messed up and dysfunctional though.

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  • paramore93

    Everyone has their own issues, many of those 'normal' people probably feel the same as you do ..

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    • nikkiclaire

      Some dysfunction though, is completely foreign to others. I doubt anyone could have comprehended my upbringing and maybe O.P is the same.

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