Is it normal that i'm intimidated by my boyfriend watching porn even though....

I've been dating my boyfriend for almost two years. At the beginning of our relationship, I never considered pornography to be an aspect in a relationship because it's something I had never experienced before. I didn't know he watched porn until maybe four months later.

At first, I was extremely pissed off. We have sex almost every single day and it bothered me because I felt like I wasn't good enough, (even though he tells me every single day i'm the sexiest, most incredible girlfriend in the world.)
It still bothered me.
He of course continued watching it because I didn't want to stop him nor did I confront it. I know masturbation is healthy and I know he's learned quite a bit from those videos, but I still couldn't help but getting upset.

6 months into the relationship we moved in together. Then he started to delete his porn history. I got even more upset. Now he was hiding it. I also understand it's personal and probable that the subject can cause a huge fight.

Just recently, he brought the subject up and told me that he does watch porn, he likes looking at other woman for fantasies and masturbating purposes, and it has absolutely nothing to do with me. I had already accepted it in the past, but I kindly asked if maybe he could not delete his history...
A. So I might be able to see what he would like.
B. I'm a little nervous about live webcams and that's something I couldn't ever accept.

Now he leaves his history up, and even though the feeling passed mostly, I still get a bit jealous, intimidated, and upset. Can someone PLEASE help me get rid of this?

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  • lawabidingcitxen

    Maybe you should suggest watching it together. Sure it will be a little awkward at first but, if you are accepting of him and his needs it could turn from a source of hurt and frustration to a new way for you to be intimate together. Also, you may learn something you have already conceded that he has so why couldn't/wouldn't you?

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  • fullhouse

    It's fine if he watches porn..i love my gf and she dosent mind it..You need to know that it's not abt you..Some people love porn(including me)

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  • shade_ilmaendu

    Imo it's kind of childish and selfish to assume you're the only person your bf is gonna be attracted to. Different scenarios, different people, and a lot of guys need visual stimulation to get off. In Western society, pretty much eeeverybody masturbates, and you can't really blame him for that now can you?

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  • honeybeee

    :(:( this makes me sad
    Don't look at his history it will make u more sad , it's better if u don't know
    I know how much it hurts :(
    I wish guys could only need one girl
    That would be the best
    But guys are retarded
    Hopefully one day he will love u enough to stop
    But he sounds like a dick

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    • Tha_tOne_Guy

      You are absolutely wrong. It is ridiculous to think that men, or even women, should only want one partner. Do you honestly think the human species would have survived if monogamy was the only style of relationship that ever existed in all of human history? Men are not "retarded," but your offensive use of the term definitely is.

      I watch porn with my girlfriend. She's just as turned on by watching other humans pleasure each other as I am. We're both completely honest and talk about how we're attracted to other people - strangers even - but that doesn't diminish our attraction for each other.

      You should grow up and stop thinking so selfishly.

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  • ygrowup

    Sorry, but it may always bother you, only time will help, or porn of your own

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