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I can never go into a relationship cause i'm so self-conscious of myself and scared of how I look and how they see me. I just feel they're looking at every every nook and cranny on my body and judging and laughing inside.
When a guy is looking at your body, he's not thinking about any small imperfection, he's into the moment. Unless you are extremely overweight, he won't be thinking like that. Any guys here want to back me up here? Any guy that reads this, if you're in an intimate moment with your girl, are you turned off by some imperfection, or are you into the moment?
Dude, I feel this. I used to be fit, but then I put on weight and I've got stretch marks.
You know what man, I aint guna lie to you, this is hard to do, but you've just got to be self-confident. I know fat fuckers who had better game when they were fat than I did when I was fit.
Also, I know it's harsh, but this is life, guys tend to be more shallow than women in regards to looks, so depending on what gender you are this'll go easier for you.
I'm assuming you're still pretty young. When I was younger, in my late teens and early 20s, I could be quite self conscious during intimacy. The lights would be very dim, and she would ne naked first. Over time I just got over it and went with the flow. Nothing bad ever happened.
You do realize that people get a pretty good picture of that you look like naked when your clothes are on dont you? If they weren't attracted to you then they wouldn't be trying to get intimate with you.
I assume you're young, and I have to wonder what sort of childhood and adolescence you had. If you constantly received messages - verbally and non-verbally - from those closest to you that you're unattractive and need to change in order to look good and be worthy of being loved, then your self-consciousness is completely understandable.
If you're female, your feelings of inadequacy and your focus on what you consider to be your imperfections are even more understandable. Women are constantly being told in one way or another by their families, their friends, the media and even total strangers that they don't measure up to absurd and unrealistic standards of beauty that can actually only be achieved by the gift of good genes combined with an obsession with appearance, a lot of money, an unhealthy diet, hours of work in the gym every week and sometimes even surgery.
Telling you that you need to learn to love yourself and accept your body is stating the obvious and much easier said than done, but it's what you need to do. I suggest you Google "women learn to love their bodies". Yours is a common problem, and there are lots of suggestions out there from women who have managed to overcome all the forces that do their best to make them feel shitty about their bodies.