Is it normal that i'm in love with my best friend who's goin out with a jerk?

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I have a great friend who means the world to me. She has been there for me throught a lot and I have for her to. We've been getting veeerrry close now and I'm staring to really fall hard for her. She also seems to be interested in me and we're very physical with each other. (holding cuddeling even falling asleep on each other) However, she has a boyfriend who is a total jerk to her- I mean a real asshole and he somehow is Important enough to her that she refuses to break up with him. They fight all the time and here I would die for her. What's wrong here?

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  • mtnw
    14 years ago

    you won't like this, but maybe she is the problem.

    she is with the jerk because that's who she wants to be with. she complains to you because she likes the attention you give her. the cuddling and such is way more than friends give, so naturally you are starting to feel more than friends. basically, she's emotionally using you.

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  • den411
    13 years ago

    Its already too late, you are in the friend zone. Its a very real problem. You have two choices. If you are same sex, back off and keep the friendship, it will mean more to you over time and give him/her self respect to stay away from aholes. That advice and guidance you give will likely keep this person in your life for a very, very long time, likely more so than the wierd relationship post friendship thing.

    If you are opposite sex, you can make a move and get incredibly lucky, or, just ride the friendship until it hurts so much you have to move on yourself. As she gets older, there is no way she is going to have an opposite sex friend around; its just not going to happen, future lovers or spouses will never be tolerant, its just not realistic. The reality is if she was interested in you in any way, you would not be on this site asking this, and she wouldnt be with other guys. She likely just likes genuinely being with you as a friend, possibly using you as above but im sure she actually likes you, just not in the way you like.

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  • themud
    14 years ago

    Make a move on her, if she really likes you then ok, if not, then rejection might be less painful on the long run

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  • x...x
    11 years ago

    I agree with the first comment. I WAS like that when i was 14 to 15 dated an asshole and needed attention i was so blinded by how hott he was i didnt give a shit about the other guy and i ended up hurtting him and we never spoke again. So if u were smart just dont do it anymore or if u cant well least u have a heads up and wont b as hurt as u would b blinded. btw i'm 16 :p im not old

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  • danh34me
    12 years ago

    you should tell her that she's ugly and worth a damn(treat her like shit just like he does)quit kissing her ass every time she runs to you and lay down the law. tell her EXACTLY what she means to you and how you feel about her,then go kick boyfriends ass and claim your woman.NUT-UP and be a man,you might lose her this way but at least you wont be kicking your own ass the rest of your life for not trying

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  • [Old Memory]
    14 years ago

    if you happen to get closer than usual again, ask her why you guys keep doing this. sometimes direct is better.

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  • Proudfear
    14 years ago

    well he may be right she may think your gay or uninterested in her, if he,s an ass she,ll probably break up with him eventually

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