Is it normal that i'm in a relationship and my friends give me a hard time

One of my best friends has been there for me through thick and thin over the past few years... intervened when I was in an unhealthy relationship with a girl who had borderline personality disorder, even got me an internship at his company when I was unemployed in the recession... but I started dating a friend of his, and cut down dramatically on my partying, and now he gives me a hard time about my gf (I'm 32 and she just turned 40, and he loves to remind me of the age difference, and every other little thing that he thinks is "wrong" about us), makes me feel ungrateful etc. and it's really hard to deal with. I feel like the only fix would be for me to be single and partying with him all the time again, but I don't want that. How can I be a good friend while he directs this obliquely jealous/resentful attitude towards me for growing up a little faster than him?

Is It Normal?
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  • He's jelly. It's a matter of time before all guys have to cross this barrier... From single boys to partnered responsible men. He too, will grow up when it's his turn.

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  • It sound's to me he is kind of jealous because you stopped doing those things with him once you got a gf.

    If he is a true friend though he will come around eventually and get used to the idea. Maybe you can do both, go out with him sometimes but also spend time with your girlfriend.

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  • Can you tell me about what happened with your BPD girlfriend?

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  • do you want a bf or a gf?

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  • He's jealous, can you blame him? Mates hate it when their pals get some new girl, talk about her, "can't go out I'm seeing her", all that crap is... crap

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  • your friend just try to save you from the pain, what he don't know us that you can't be helped.

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  • 8 years isn't a big age difference, he just wants you to be in the same position as him

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  • i agree with the above, u gotta be honest with your friend and just tell him how you feel. just be blunt, honest and too the point.

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  • "please dont talk bad about my girlfriend, it hurts my feelings" say that
    if he continues edge him out, he'll be back later when he knows your bounderies

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