Your concern seems sensible to me, particularly since so many young people these days seem to assume that everything they see in porn is how sex should - or must - be, rather than it being no more realistic than any other form of entertainment.
Some guys do like their dick to be treated really roughly. That's fine if it's what they want, but it's not my cup of tea. Some guys even get off on a lot of teeth-scraping, but I really, really dislike that too.
For what it's worth, I've never experienced a woman treating my penis in the way you describe during a blowjob. If one ever had, I would have let her know it wasn't what I liked in very clear terms. But I'm of a generation which learned most of their sexual techniques by trial and error, while the age group of the women you're having sex with probably learned about sex from porn or from having sex with guys whose tastes and preferences were heavily influenced by porn.
What you allow a woman to do with your body is obviously entirely up to you, and you definitely have as much right as her to express your preferences clearly. However, I would suggest that you might try to get over making it a hard and fast rule that any oral contact with your penis is strictly forbidden. If you're with a woman who has oral skills and she's the sort of person who pays close attention to how you react to the things she does, you might find that simply saying, "Very gently, please," could be enough for you to get past your inhibitions and enjoy it.
IIN that I'm a guy who hates blowjobs
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Your concern seems sensible to me, particularly since so many young people these days seem to assume that everything they see in porn is how sex should - or must - be, rather than it being no more realistic than any other form of entertainment.
Some guys do like their dick to be treated really roughly. That's fine if it's what they want, but it's not my cup of tea. Some guys even get off on a lot of teeth-scraping, but I really, really dislike that too.
For what it's worth, I've never experienced a woman treating my penis in the way you describe during a blowjob. If one ever had, I would have let her know it wasn't what I liked in very clear terms. But I'm of a generation which learned most of their sexual techniques by trial and error, while the age group of the women you're having sex with probably learned about sex from porn or from having sex with guys whose tastes and preferences were heavily influenced by porn.
What you allow a woman to do with your body is obviously entirely up to you, and you definitely have as much right as her to express your preferences clearly. However, I would suggest that you might try to get over making it a hard and fast rule that any oral contact with your penis is strictly forbidden. If you're with a woman who has oral skills and she's the sort of person who pays close attention to how you react to the things she does, you might find that simply saying, "Very gently, please," could be enough for you to get past your inhibitions and enjoy it.