It's not about not liking any form of foreplay, I'd just want to do other activities during foreplay, mainly concentrating on turning the woman on, rather than myself.
I'm much more likely to sustain an erection after giving a girl a sexual massage, for instance, than after being sucked off. Furthermore, I also think kinky fetish play should always be carried out during foreplay to set the mood.
Blowjobs do honestly cause me to have a deep-rooted fear and the main reason for that is that my foreskin is still attached. In porn, you always see girls depicted twisting and pulling a guy's shaft while sucking him off, and that looks to me as it would injure me really badly.
Your concern seems sensible to me, particularly since so many young people these days seem to assume that everything they see in porn is how sex should - or must - be, rather than it being no more realistic than any other form of entertainment.
Some guys do like their dick to be treated really roughly. That's fine if it's what they want, but it's not my cup of tea. Some guys even get off on a lot of teeth-scraping, but I really, really dislike that too.
For what it's worth, I've never experienced a woman treating my penis in the way you describe during a blowjob. If one ever had, I would have let her know it wasn't what I liked in very clear terms. But I'm of a generation which learned most of their sexual techniques by trial and error, while the age group of the women you're having sex with probably learned about sex from porn or from having sex with guys whose tastes and preferences were heavily influenced by porn.
What you allow a woman to do with your body is obviously entirely up to you, and you definitely have as much right as her to express your preferences clearly. However, I would suggest that you might try to get over making it a hard and fast rule that any oral contact with your penis is strictly forbidden. If you're with a woman who has oral skills and she's the sort of person who pays close attention to how you react to the things she does, you might find that simply saying, "Very gently, please," could be enough for you to get past your inhibitions and enjoy it.
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It's not about not liking any form of foreplay, I'd just want to do other activities during foreplay, mainly concentrating on turning the woman on, rather than myself.
I'm much more likely to sustain an erection after giving a girl a sexual massage, for instance, than after being sucked off. Furthermore, I also think kinky fetish play should always be carried out during foreplay to set the mood.
Blowjobs do honestly cause me to have a deep-rooted fear and the main reason for that is that my foreskin is still attached. In porn, you always see girls depicted twisting and pulling a guy's shaft while sucking him off, and that looks to me as it would injure me really badly.
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Your concern seems sensible to me, particularly since so many young people these days seem to assume that everything they see in porn is how sex should - or must - be, rather than it being no more realistic than any other form of entertainment.
Some guys do like their dick to be treated really roughly. That's fine if it's what they want, but it's not my cup of tea. Some guys even get off on a lot of teeth-scraping, but I really, really dislike that too.
For what it's worth, I've never experienced a woman treating my penis in the way you describe during a blowjob. If one ever had, I would have let her know it wasn't what I liked in very clear terms. But I'm of a generation which learned most of their sexual techniques by trial and error, while the age group of the women you're having sex with probably learned about sex from porn or from having sex with guys whose tastes and preferences were heavily influenced by porn.
What you allow a woman to do with your body is obviously entirely up to you, and you definitely have as much right as her to express your preferences clearly. However, I would suggest that you might try to get over making it a hard and fast rule that any oral contact with your penis is strictly forbidden. If you're with a woman who has oral skills and she's the sort of person who pays close attention to how you react to the things she does, you might find that simply saying, "Very gently, please," could be enough for you to get past your inhibitions and enjoy it.